Him watching porn - while I work next door

It's okay for him to explore his sexuality outside of your relationship... A sexual relationship with yourself is very important especially for men especially if sex hasn't been on the table. I think you should explore why you feel disrespected over something that doesn't really have to be about you.

I'm confused as to what's disrespectful about him watching porn when he's by himself

i think it’s a matter of opinion, some girls agree with their man watching it while some find it disrespectful, and as your boyfriend he should respect whatever decision you make, i personally don’t agree with my man doing it or looking at those stupid horny instagram girls, it makes me feel like i’m not good enough for him, like my body isn’t good enough and like im ugly, your feelings are valid and i get mad at it too

Will never understand girls who are okay with their man watching filth; he’s literally getting aroused and cuming over someone else🫠 to those girls I say; have some respect for yourself.
I’d try speaking to him about it. Let him know how it makes you feel and I can only hope he’ll respect you. I agree; it’s disgusting.

My guy sees nothing wrong with this and it’s a difficult guy to speak with about anything in general but are these girls who are ok with porn in all the circumstances telling me that they are ok with them doing it while they are in the house? I mean what is this world that we live in

We also have had a really bad cold this week I ended up in the hospital but husband was fine if he wants to watch porn while I am sick or if I go to bed before him or whatever he is more than welcome to. Don’t wake me up. It’s not that I don’t respect myself it’s that I respect myself enough to say I am taking my self care time you do you. They are just woman on the other side of a screen he will never meet them he will never be with them & its going to happen in his mind anyways so I really don’t care. It is the same as looking at an actor on a screen and thinking they are good looking. Plus it allows for exploration of intimacy.

In my opinion I disagree with porn why watch that stuff when your married. He should rather make time for you for the intimate side of things. And porn can destroy men’s outlook on sex too. Sorry your going through this hope you guys sort it out.

You caught him having a cheeky wank on his day off. I don’t think you need to take it too hard - everyone needs to scratch that itch from time to time.

I think the real issue is that you don’t feel like he’s meeting your needs and that’s why this feels like more than it is.

Just talk to him. Tell him how you feel and try to plan some baby-free evenings when you can get some practice in.

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@karmen I just read all your comments LOL what your saying is right we do need to step it up but honestly men always finding ways to piss us of :/

I understand how you feel, I feel disgusted at times. But that’s only if he’s been distant from me or we haven’t been intimate for awhile. I never really seen anything in his phone or proof that he watches it. Usually delete the history but I know when he does I’m not stupid because when I’m home alone I do it too. I guess I’m more curious on what he’s interested in watching 😅

Honestly girl at this point I think it’s something tht happens to everyone I’m going through the same thing with my fiancé I was mad the first few days wen i found out but now i really don’t pay attention to it anymore

never happened to me 🤷🏼‍♀️

u lucky cuz the feelings I felt wen I found out was ridiculous

The app help me get over it cuz every week I see someone saying the same thing

Unpopular Opinion but porn is sooooo bad for you. Spiritually and mentally. I pray people get released from the shackles of pornography and just enjoy sex in real time with their husband/wife 🤯 if you’ve got someone right there why are you looking at a screen for satisfaction??? …but that’s just me 😂

He should have at least been honest it’s not nice to think about lots of people are different and to be honest all things like this should be disclosed with your spouse/ partner but if it’s not something your comfortable with it needs to be discussed porn isn’t it even interesting so if anyone likes watching it I’m sorry but your bored with life it’s unrealistic and sets standards to sex porn is a joke and makes me sick 🤢

And to be honest all stuff like this should be discussed before hand all the hard conversations should be before you wanna spend the rest of your life with this person that way you know what your getting into first but unfortunately people leave some conversations till it’s to late and then you may not like the person you got with all because of something that could have be discussed from the get go

I hear my partner in the shower going at it baby takes up a lot of time we don’t get a lot to ourselves sexually or not. Personally I don’t mind he’s just destressing how he can

maybe that’s true for your situation but there are men out there that don’t do porn. My man does not watch porn. He made that decision on his own. Men are capable of controlling themselves sexually! If your man can’t he either has an addiction or he just doesn’t want to. It’s really that simple.

I'm sorry but what's the problem? The only slight thing I can see to be disrespectful is the fact he didn't ask you or try having sex with you first and then only did it if you had rejected him. However I must say sometimes I feel h*rny but the act and energy sex is just isn't what I want. I just being completely honest don't really see the problem. Porn isn't something that men are "cheating" on you with... its just porn.

😂😂😂 sorry, he doesn’t stray away from home 🔐💍

I agree with this. I told my partner early on in the relationship that it was a no (mainly due to previous trauma and mental health). About a year in he started becoming distant and it broke me when I found out after tricking him (felt so bad about tricking him into telling me the truth).

He then said he would stop, I even sent him pictures and told him to let me know if he needed any more or specific stuff. I don’t mind him doing things to himself as long as it’s to me and he doesn’t neglect my needs.

Over the past few years he has been pushing away my advances and honestly don’t feel the tiniest bit desirable now.

I found out the other day (accidentally) that he has been continuing to watch it for years and lying to me about it. I have brought it up previously when I suspected he was watching it and he has denied it and made me feel like I was just being paranoid and stupid for thinking that.

I’m 34 weeks now and honestly feel broken and so stupid.

I recently found out my partner has been watching it even when it was agreed upon that it was a deal breaker for me 😔

If you need to rant about it my messages are open (if you don’t want a response to the message and you just want to let it out just add that to the message)

I’m annoyed with my partner because he has been pushing me away for years, I don’t feel pretty or sexy anymore and my confidence is gone. I don’t know if I will be able to trust him fully but we are now expecting so I need to try and figure something out.

I do feel like he doesn’t respect me, my mental health or our relationship though. Even if you are okay with him watching it it’s normal to feel hurt.

exactly! Idk how some women are okay with it. Absolutely not. It’s definitely cheating it’s getting off to another woman.