About to quit daycare .. and my job …

My son has been sick for about 2 months straight … before that it was every other week if not every week . He’s 8 months old . This time around it was a viral illness straight into rsv straight into an ear infection .. he was on amoxicillin and improved slightly .. I sent him back for 2 days boom viral infection and double ear infection . I can’t do it anymore … I pay $325 a week for a daycare he doesn’t go tobecause he constantly sick plus I’m out of pto from my job so I don’t get any pay when I have to call out . I don’t wanna leave my job but I’m a nurse at a hospital and I need something flexible so I can avoid daycare and work opposite his dad’s hours or just work when I can . I’ve applied to my sister in laws job where she has flexible hours working with the mentally disabled . I feel like this isn’t normal. I get maybe every other week but he doesn’t even fully recover between illnesses . I’m having such a hard time

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I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I felt the same way in November when my baby got Covid then recovered and a week later got RSV. We put our child in daycare at 9 months and I thought she’d be out of the woods for illness but it does seem like every other week. Thankfully she’s been doing a lot better for this month. 🤞

I’m still nursing so I’ve started taking a vitamin c mix every morning not sure if that’s an option for you but I wonder if that has helped my baby.

When the baby gets sick depending on days my husband and I both take turns calling out so it’s not one of us who is calling out all the time. I’m also a nurse so I work 12.5 hour shifts (2 x weekly) so since I work so infrequent I can’t be the one to call out all the time when it’s twice a week.

I hope it gets better for you just know you’re definitely not alone with illness and daycare. They say by the time they get to kindergarten they’re never sick…hope that’s true 🙌

Yea I would definitely pull him out. Maybe try a nanny? My god mom keeps my son because I hate the idea of daycare. I work super part time and make my own schedule, so that's a blessing. I've heard so many horror stories about daycares similar to yours. Sorry you're experiencing this 💔

This was very similar to when my son started daycare. He was almost 8 months at the time. He had Covid, stomach bug, RSV, HFM, colds, ear infections, you name it.

I am a teacher and my husband works full time as well, so anything but full time daycare isn’t really an option for us. I’ve always heard that it takes around a year for them to stop getting sick so much, which was mostly true for us. In the summer naturally there aren’t as many illnesses going around. This fall/winter so far I’ve only had to keep him home for 1 day!

If you were to keep him home then I’ve always heard whenever they do start school there’s always going to be a period where they get sick more if it’s their first time regularly around a lot of other kids. So I don’t know if it’s completely avoidable although it truly sucks whenever they are sick!

I feel your pain. I went back to work after maternity leave in September and my husband and I have had to take several sick days for our daughter. Ear infections, pneumonia, colds, ect. Apparently it’s normal for babies in their first year in daycare to be sick twice per month. I think we’re going through a particularly tough cold/flu season and so it’s really hitting daycares hard. You’re not alone. It feels like as soon as my daughter is better, she’s sick again and then we’re sick. So far my employer is understanding, but I worry that it’ll catch up to me at some point. I have no advice to offer, but I can emphasize with you!

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wtf moment?

I have been going back and forth with my husband lately. Well not lately it’s been years. He is the best husband and father you could ask for; for two weeks. Then he’s inconsistent. It drives me mad. Then he’s back to husband and dad of the year , then back to same inconsistency. I talked to him about this last night and he said “if i was lovey dovey and acted like this all the time you’d get bored and cheat on me.”

Ok so for starters i know some of you are going to say omg omg omg super controlling omg leave omg. No im not doing that. Im happy he finally admitted his wrong doing and taking accountability for it but id like to know the deeper reason, the what the f has him thinking like this reason, the personality trait reason. He’s obviously scared I’m going to leave him; so much so that he’s doing this dumb shit to prevent it. Past trauma? What do y’all think I can do to get him to see I’m not going anywhere? I’m consistent already, I married him, we have a baby. He really is the love of my life. I have never loved another man like this before.. but this shit is for the birds and he thinks he’s keeping me doing this but in actuality it’s making me lose respect and detach.

Divorced at 5 months PP

My husband just divorced me yesterday.

I'm 5 months post partum and I feel like complete shit. I literally can't stop crying and I don't feel like eating and this whole week my milk supply has gone down due to stress and not eating. What helps with milk supply?

The divorce- on Monday at 5am me and my husband had a small argument on text. It was regarding him not catering to my love language. I sent him a video on how women shouldn't have to ask and how laziness can kill a relationship. We've had many arguments regarding this prior about him not catering to my love language and he doesn't buy me flowers or doesn't think of me. Anyways this night, he text me saying he doesn't do Mother's Day and all that, he doesn't want to buy me flowers because my sisters buy me flowers and he can't be arsed with my moods. He said I've not been his peace and said he's done.
I replied "okay. All I want is for you to appreciate me and love me as your wife and mother of your child. I'm not pushing you away, I'm begging you to love me etc etc. I'm done too."

I come home from my errands that morning and he's upped and left. He took all of his belongings, clothes, drawer, tv- everything.

He didn't ring or text me or anything.

The property is in my name and as he left and didn't leave the key, I changed the locks the next day. I feel this is what pushed him over the edge.

He officially divorced me on Saturday.
I'm 5 months post partum and I have a 5 year old from my ex partner too.

I just want to talk about it with someone that's not biased. Was I asking for too much? I feel he just didn't want to be with me anymore and used this as an excuse? Or is that me overthinking....
Input would be nice xoxo

Partner is giving me the silent treatment

So I was struggling with my postpartum anxiety bad yesterday. My partner and I was out for drinks with family. He kept making jokes about treating me a bit shit.
Which no one thought was funny. I am usually quite patient about him using me as his jokes, but yesterday it hurt.

When we got home I told him it made me feel disrespected. Now he is giving me the cold fat shoulder?! What do I do ?

worried about a family members baby

So this child is three months old and she isn’t being fed from 10pm till 6/7 am idk if this is normal or safe and it’s been like this since 2 months i believe as she won’t wake her for feeds she goes to the pub drinking most nights with her baby and her baby has already been in hospital with a very low temperature bc she was outside but as soon as she was in a warm car she warmed up and doctors said she was fine she lets cats play with her bouncers toys that go over her and doesn’t strap her in she is cold from what i’ve heard from other family members and they’ve tried to warm her hands and she’s wet herself at my parents and she hasn’t had a spare vest to put on her and i offered her a blanket as she didn’t have one and she declined and she won’t listen to anyone about it she’s already left the baby with my parents for the night to go out drinking and personally i couldn’t leave my three month old because my parents said she just cried and im really unsure whether to report her or not and her house smells of dog wee/poo as she’s never home to look after them and that’s not safe for the baby i understand being lonely but she doesn’t need to go to the pub every night her friends could
go
to hers or her she could go to a cafe that has closed doors not sat outside a cold pub and it’s a bit of a rough pub in my opinion

my parents are concerned btw but they say i shouldn’t report her as it’s not fair but i feel how the baby is treated isn’t fair

Forgiving a partner…

Long story short - found out 2 months ago my partner of almost 10 years has slept with two girls, one of which he’s been seeing for 8 months - during this time I was pregnant with our third child and gave birth. (She had an abortion)
I found out, he cut all ties (still works with her)
I want to try and move on from this, we have three children , and a home… I can’t face the idea of being without my children half the time. I want to try and make things work. But I can’t stop the intrusive thoughts / images of the two of them together…. Any advice if you’ve been in a similar situation?
Sick of feeling this rubbish, also 5 month pp so hormones/confidence is in pieces😣😣😣

Does anyone else hate their partner?

I’m now a little over 2 months postpartum and I’ve struggled with genuinely just not liking my partner anymore since we found out I was pregnant last year. I catch myself just staring at him with hatred because I’m so sick and tired of his bullshit. He is just now getting a job and has not had one since THANKSGIVING!!! Meanwhile I was working full time until I finally got too sick to be able to work. I genuinely want him out of my house but I depend on him as far as driving goes bc I don’t have a car. I also still love him deep down and don’t want to put him out on the street but he’s driving me genuinely insane. Any advice?