No one has offered to organise a baby shower

No one did it for me so I just threw my own gender reveal. I found that I got exactly what I wanted in terms of decor food venue and I still got given gifts but I get that it really sucks cause i felt that way too. Feels like no one cares

@Jenny That’s a great idea, unfortunately my partner didn’t want to have a gender reveal, but I will do that if I have another baby - thank you 🙏🏽

I am currently planning my own, I find I’ll get what I want in terms of who’s going to be there the food etc. Have u tried reaching out to your close family or friends to say how you are feeling ?

When are you due?

I don’t think it’s a very common thing anymore for someone else to organise your baby shower, in the UK anyway. I always wanted to organise my own so it was what I wanted x

Are you sure it’s not a surprise? For my friends it’s always been a surprise. We’ve never actually told them we’re gonna organise something

Tell your partner to organize it and enlist some of your family or friends for help.

I planned my whole shower and it was miserable but turned out so cute

@Kait I haven’t reached out to them, because I felt awkward about it, but maybe I should..

@Alex early April

Me and my husband planned our own. Once we got a venue and a date and things some people then offered to help set it up and help with food etc. My mum and sister were shocked we were having one because she didn't think it would be something wed want so as soon as she knew we were having one she helped loads, maybe people think it's not really your thing? Throw your own that way it can be as lavish or relaxed as you want! (please don't think it means people aren't bothered, because they are!) 😊❤️

@Charlee thanks a lot for this advice, I think it was because no one’s asked whether I’d actually want one either but I think I will consider doing that if I have another baby - thank you

There’s still plenty of time to organise!

I never particularly wanted one but if I had wanted one I would have organised it myself. As it happened a friend did organise one as a surprise which was lovely but I absolutely wasn’t expecting it. If it’s important to you, get organising! 😊

You expected it would happen and now you’re disappointed, and it’s okay to feel this way x

Same for me. But I’m the person in the family that organises parties so I’m not surprised nor upset. It would’ve been nice but it’s alright, just happy as long as baby is healthy. Do something special for yourself if it’s getting you down

@Incognito if you're not due until early April, there's still plenty of time to plan one yourself, I didn't have mine until I was 36 weeks, if you want one do it, don't regret it later! ❤️

No one would do it for me, planning my own x

My husband enlisted the help of family unbeknownst to me. It was very nice. Not gonna lie that there was drama. I think I'll plan my second by myself.

I’ve had 3, my first was with close friends right at the beginning, my second was with my friends abroad who planned it & my third im planning myself. Plan yours yourself I’m sure people would love to attend! I just think in the UK it’s not really a thing to plan someone else’s shower? But idk

Same. I did my own and the family took over completely. I was absolutely devastated. I wanted an afternoon tea kind of vibe and everyone just got black out drunk. At 2pm in the afternoon 🤦🏻‍♀️ I left before everyone at 8pm😂

My husband organised one for me at 37 weeks as no one had organised one! It was a complete surprise for me

@Paige that’s so sad & something I’m looking to avoid at mine. How selfish of them!

What’s happened with your other pregnant friends? Take the lead from that. I just feel April is still very early to have been consulted on it. So I 100% wouldn’t get upset yet as they could very easily be planning a surprise, or! They were due to get cracking on organising and asking you when the new year starts (so now) But as I said I’d go by what you and your friendship group/s did for others to give you a clue

I haven’t been asked but I’m quite excited to plan my own to be honest me and hubby are planning together and will have both our family and friends there (I didn’t want the ladies only tea party vibe just not for me personally and I know that’s what my friends would have planned more for them lol)

I personally didn’t want a baby shower or gender reveal as we planned a big christening party and we didn’t want to put our family and friends under any financial stress trying to afford gifts etc for all events. I do believe in the uk it’s more common for the parents to be to organise their own?

I’ve been asked if I would like one but I don’t have a lot of friends here so it would just be sad. In Jewish culture we do baby namings once baby is born so I’ll have that. But I do have a registry if people want to send anything before hand.

I organised my own- invited 30 people and only 3 showed up 😂😂

I planned my own x

Both my friends and family waited till the last minute to organise one. She was born before both

@Carla none of my friends have had children and I don’t have a group of friends, just separate friends from different places, as I’ve moved a few times.. thanks for the advice though

Thanks for all the advice ♥️ 🙏🏽

I did my own! (Control freak but nobody offered anyway!) was so much better!

We had a gender reveal as Nobody offered to plan a baby shower, but not one person brought a gift anyway

@Katie I wouldn’t expect gifts from a gender reveal. When everyone come round to meet our little girl they gave us gifts and that was more than enough!!

I organized my own as I don’t think friends/family especially here in US will spend a lot of time/money planning for other people’s party. Just an intimate and simple gender reveal.

I planned my own. Afternoon tea for a couple hours. Honestly though it’s money you end up paying out of your own pocket that is probably better spent on baby