I need help! My daughter refuses to let me do her hair. It’s a struggle every night after bath time. She is biracial and I’m struggling to get her hair done. If I don’t force her to let me do it will turn into full on knots.

I know how you feel, my daughter has super curly hair and it’s a battle everyday. To be honest, I’ve tried to explain to her the concept of knots. I blame them for hurting her and ask her if she wants her hair to hurt her because it’s full of knot and then explain why fixing her hair is important so that there aren’t too many knots. I try to distract her with a book or toy but when it’s just a really bad day and i can feel im not going to have the patience I’ll be honest I put something on my phone for her to watch and quickly get to work on her hair…

i have a ton of kids who come into my chair like this. it’s a process and a hard one at that. it takes time, patience, consistency, and discipline.
let her have some control. like holding the combs and spray bottles, or the bottles of product. or get her a babydoll that has hair she can do while you do hers.
and go slow. always start at the ends and work to the root. a good detangler will make it a lot easier. but it all starts on what you wash her hair with.
i recommend curly kids. it’s very gentle, affordable, and it smells amazing. they have a shampoo and conditioner that also helps with detangling so combing won’t be such a hassle.
everyday 2x a day comb her out with her hair damp and with detangler. wide tooth comb will be the easiest for both of you.
then for bedtime, after it’s combed out add some leave in conditioner, and then finish everything off with grapeseed oil. i add rosemary and castor oil to it to help promote growth.
and you have to be firm.

she will fight you. give her breaks if she’s out of control, but stand your ground. she will learn she can get out of it if she cries enough. so let her take a break. hug her and talk kindly. but return to combing her hair. i know it sounds mean, but as a professional, this is what i tell my the parents of my clients who have issues with getting their hair done. sometimes she’s going to scream before you even start combing. and it will be frustrating. but after some times she will learn to calm down. put on a tv show and give her a snack. try to go into it as positive as possible.but hold your ground!

thank you 🙏

appreciate the recommendations I will definitely try these :)

thank you for the suggestions 🫶

Same here, no amount of snacks or TV helps either. She will rip it right out, if not right away then later

Going through the same thing and it can be exhausting. We are currently doing hair in her bath tub. That’s the only way it’s working. Atleast for now

I hate to say it but if you have an iPad then let her play on it while you do her hair. My kid is half black/half Hispanic. Top part of his head is 3b/c and the back is like 4a. I was able to braid his hair for the first time a few weeks ago due to his watching coco melon. Good luck!!