back to work worries

my little one cries when anyone (close family/friends) holds her or goes near her. she has been like this from around 3-4 months, i thought it was a phase but clearly not. with me going back to work i’m so worried that it’s going to give her some sort of abandonment issues or anxiety in later life due to crying for me at drop off 🥺 however, i have been leaving her with my mum a couple of days a week and she cries when i leave her but within minutes she is settled (although doesn’t let my mum put her down!) i’m hoping it’s the same for nursery (minus the putting down lol) but i’m worrying about causing her to have some sort of emotional/attachment issues. am i being silly?

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Not silly in the slightest - I feel exactly the same. And my baby is the same - I think we commented on the same post about it 🙃.

I’m back to work in a week and my LO has been doing settling in sessions. Last week was a mixed bag - one day he cried a lot and the other day he cried when I left and came back but apparently was fine the rest of the time.

We have to do what we have to do, and I have read that they WILL be fine. It will just take time xx

it’s soo horrible isn’t it 🥲 that’s reassuring that he was okay whilst you were gone. how was he at home after it? mine has her settling in sessions in two weeks.

aaah i hope so 🤞🏼 i do think nursery will be good for her and hopefully she will become more confident and less clingy but i also can’t help but worry it will go the other way and she will be more clingy and withdrawn 😫

hope your return to work goes well 💓 it’s great to know i’m not alone in how i feel or that my little one isn’t the only one like this! X

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