Holiday advice needed

Looking to take my little girl on her first holiday abroad via plane and my first time on a plane in over 10 years. I’m in panic mode as we are looking towards end of this month and I know nothing about what to pack, how to deal with a 4 hour plane journey, coach transfers etc.

How do you deal with her ears popping?
Where do they sit on coach transfer? Do they provide a car seat?
What can I pack in hand luggage for her? Like snacks toys etc.

Any advice would be great!

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Following as have the same anxiety and plan on going abroad this year

We’ve done quite a bit of travelling (the joys of living on a small island) and this is what we do. Make sure you leave plenty of time for getting through security, there are separate rules for taking baby food pouches and milk through so make sure you’ve read these as not all security staff know them! Some airports have a family lane for security which is great. You can also take 2 large items for free (buggy / travel cot / car seat) - this applies no matter what checked baggage you have booked and is in addition to your checked bags.

Get them excited before boarding by talking about going on a plane and spotting the planes out of the window before you board. We always pack a small bag just of toys and snacks for the flight, things like sticker books, fidget spinners, story books go down well and don’t take up too much room. Take enough nappies and food in case of delays - we got stuck on the runway once and they ran out of food on board 😩
Cabin crew are generally great…

And I’ve even had them hold the baby for me when going to the loo 😂
Re coaches, generally the seats don’t take car seats so you will have to carry them in your lap. I’m not generally comfortable with that on a long transfer so prefer to book a taxi. Some taxi companies can provide seats but definitely check in advance. Your hotel might also be able to help with this.

And just be aware that if they are over 2, or turn 2 while you are away, you will have to book them their own seat on the plane.
Hope that helps. Sounds stressful but it’s really not that bad 😊 so just try to go with the flow and enjoy yourself!

Wow you’ve helped me a lot! The transfer is 45 minutes via coach so booked a car instead. Can you help about the ear popping situation?x

Give them something to drink on take off and landing to help with the ears. It's always working for us. We usually also take our own car seat for the transfers, but we then also need it after landing. There are some that you can fold (I think Maxi Cosy has one like that?). Until now, we were fine with the infant car seat (it worked fine on National Express), but he overgrew it now... it needs to be a belted one, though.

We’ve been on 5 breaks/holidays and she’s going to be 2 next month. Airport security will allow water or milk no juice at all for the child.
Also I would bring their favourite snacks, have a look at the crayola mess free packs as it kept her busy colouring in and no mess!!
Also pack more nappies as we had to buy some in Lanzarote and they were 13 euros for very basic standard ones 🫣
We found the ear popping to not be an issue at all! Just dummy in :-) it’s easier than you think and you’ll have a good time x

Thank you that’s very useful to know. My little girl doesn’t have a dummy so will have to try the drink method. Glad you mentioned about nappies as Lanzarote is where we are going🙈 xx

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