Mum guilt

Will *never* do any cry-to-sleep shit. Studies have shown it’s SO bad for their little brains. Ignore her - she sounds like a dinosaur xx

Right? She said “it’s not cry it out” but it sounds like cry it out to me. My heart/body can’t take the sounds of her cries!

My baby sleeps next to me.

I think a lot of the info provided by the MHCN is outdated.
You do what is right for you.
There is no one size fits all.

If it bothers you that you need to hold her to sleep, then by all means try what you need to. I believe however, that you know what is best for your baby.
Don’t let her opinion or suggestion make you cloud what you feel is right for you & bubba.

My bub now goes to sleep on her own but she is NEVER crying. If she cry’s I go in, settle, soothe or whatever she needs and when I leave again she is settled and content. She also refuses to be held to sleep which is why we now do this!

If holding your bub to sleep works for you and you are both comfortable doing it then there is NOTHING wrong with it. They are only little once, soak up every single moment while you can. Your bub won’t be asking you to hold them to sleep when they are 15!

They told me to do responsive settling, and I found it to be horrific, quite frankly. My bub would cry for up to an hour and still wouldn't sleep. I refuse to listen to them anymore.
She will do it when she's ready.

Please just do what works for your family! My baby will not fall asleep in our arms and prefers to just be put down in her cot. If she's upset though we sing to her til she falls asleep. That being said we just had a boob nap cos that's what she wanted 🤷‍♀️

I cuddle my 7 month old to sleep. Like you, I also can't stand the sound of her being upset, scared or crying, so I won't put her in that position. I feel like it's my responsibility to be her safe place always, and her comfort when she needs it.

I'm all for everyone doing whatever works best for them, and I understand that every child is different, so what works for one might not work for another though.

I co sleep with my 8 month old and let her feed to sleep, the MCH nurse also told me to transfer her and let her cry for 5 mins but I start to cry before that time

Wow! All these comments just goes to show that it’s very natural for mothers to follow their instincts with what feels right for them and their baby. When I got home after the appointment, I couldn’t stop thinking about how much pressure there is for mothers to get it right. Whether it’s starting solids, breast feeding, sleeping situations etc. It doesn’t end!

I don’t have post natal depression but people wonder why some women can’t cope…

But thank you to all who have commented. I’ve read each of your responses and I’m just going to keep doing what feels right at the moment ❤️

Cuddling to sleep sounds amazing! I still need to feed to sleep most of the time. It’s so hard dealing with comments about how to put babies to sleep when the previous generations had different techniques as norm.
My babe is still up 2-3 times a night but I refuse to let her cry without me. I have bad memories of settling myself to sleep after night terrors as a child. My tiredness is totally worth being there for my baby every single time. Especially after I goggled and found out you can’t die form sleep deprivation 😂

Most of the time I will cuddle my little one to sleep she is 6m

It soothes her and then I can put her down.

She is so settled now and knows I will always come for her if she needs me, she has just started falling asleep on her own with me in the room.

It all depends on your baby and your instincts and to be very honest, our little ones aren't this little for long who cares right now if they feel safest being cuddled to sleep.

And it makes me feel happy xx

I know right? Why is there so much pressure to get them sleep independently? Tbh, I know some people who’s babies sleep independently but still get up during the night. This whole idea that “If you get your baby trained to sleep independently, then they will be able to go back to sleep on their own.” I’m sure this is possible for some babies but this one size fits all mentality needs rethinking.

My second child was still waking up once a night until after she was 1 year old, and she was putting herself to sleep from a very young age. 🤷‍♀️

With my first I left her to cry and settle herself and she is great to put to sleep, only cried for about 10 minutes before she went to sleep. My second I still rock to sleep even for naps. I think you also need to go with your baby as they are all different and have different needs.

Self soothing takes months to teach gently (without leaving them crying) and I found it was worth it

I find it really disturbing that Cry It Out is back, like it's the bad old 1960s again

fully agree 💗 I think the "one size fits all" needs to be scrapped on milestones and schooling too 🤭

I always hold my son to sleep. You are not failing by doing this, you’re a supportive and loving mother!

I hold/ feed both my kids to sleep 22 months and 8 months. If you are happy with this, then there is nothing wrong with it. I love holding feeding my kids to sleep. They are small for such a small time and it comforts them. When they are ready is when I will stop. Do not listen to this women