Big sister dropped 3 month old sister

Hey all! I just need a little support. My postpartum anxiety has been through the roof and now my 8 year old step daughter dropped my 3 month old on the back of the head last night and now I have even more anxiety. We went to the ER and she’s perfectly ok she’s smiling and all but this is my first baby and I’m just freaking out. I’m worried to let big sissy hold her again, I feel guilty that it happened in the first place, all I can think of is …. She could’ve died and I keep replaying how it happened over and over in my head…

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You can’t hold her responsible for it forever. Accidents happen. As scary as it was. It wasn’t not intentional.

Only holding her whilst seated is a good starting point, on the couch eg.

Oufff this is heavy ! I think explaining your step daughter how fragile the babies are and to ask before taking her so she could be supervised would go a long way ! I understand You worries ! Thankfull their head are still very mushy at that age but I get it my daughter flipped over he crib when she was about 10-11 months and I was scared for dear life !! And didn’t want her to sleep in her crib ! You got this mama be strong but try not to stress to much !! Just make sure step sister is watched when she has baby sis !

My baby fell off my parents bed onto the decorative concrete floor in their house. The ER dr said he had 4 kids all bonked their head at some point we do our best. As one parent told me God designed them pretty well with hard enough skulls. He dropped his baby when he nodded off giving a bottle in the middle of the night.

Thank you ladies, big sis doesn’t even know that I’m feeling this way, she was pretty shook up herself feeling terrible for dropping her. We assured her that babies can be quite indestructible but my head and heart were aching 😣 thanks for the support

I’m so sorry this happened but all yall can do is learn from the accident and move on. Maybe let big sister only hold baby when sitting down and as baby gets older and less tiny and big sister gets older she can hold her while doing other things. Having a new baby is difficult and everyone who had never done it needs to learn how to hold baby. So just try to help yes h her how to do it properly

I could imagine how scared she felt dropping her but definitely if she wants too be holding her have her just sit next time just incase or you hold her and she could support you by sitting with you ! I’m glad your baby is okay!

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