MIL is obsessed with my labour

If your husband has already spoken to her next time she brings it up id say “im grateful youre so eager to help but i thought husbands name already mentioned to you that were not having visitors in the hospital or at home for a little while so that we can prioritise bonding & safety with the new baby. Just wanted to make sure we are on the same page as I know you are really excited” then id probably mute notifications from her lol and definitely dont tell her the baby is born until after unless you want to risk her showing up uninvited xx

Your husband needs to have another conversation with her.

I'd stop responding now for sure. If you reply to her texts everyday as soon as you don't she gonna know it's because you're in labor and might take it upon herself to try and show up to the hospital. But ya, he needs to talk to her again 🙃

Simply don't respond. I would tell my husband that every time his mom texts me he needs to text her and tell her to leave me alone. I also wouldn't tell her when I go into labor. I'm not telling anyone when I go into labor. It's no one's business but those who need to know because they'll be there.

Jesus, this sounds awful, so sorry you’re in this position. You’ve just got to get your husband to talk to her and give you space. It’s not fair, she is ruining your moment. Don’t let her do this. Xx

Have you texted her back something like “we will let you know when he’s here and we’re ready for visitors!x” and then don’t respond anymore after that

I was induced however when my induction started I messaged everyone close to me saying I won't be responding to any messages and partner will send out updates and can be contacted if there are any other questions. Everyone was very respectful of that. Maybe a message like that if you go into labour.
Or when you go into labour message her and say just to remind you it's just going to be me and partner in the delivery room, he will keep you updated! Trust me when you're in labour you won't be looking at your phone!

Wow I would do what the others recommended. And sadly prepare yourself for post birth crazy antics. Like uninvited visits, weird way too personal questions. I feel for you because my mil became psycho after we had our first baby. Actually, she was weird when I was pregnant like jealous.

Is your mom going to visit you at the hospital or your home?
Then, the other grandma should be allowed to visit too.
It’s ok to tell her you don’t want anyone to carry your baby until they get their shots but extend the invitation to your house with a “there’s gonna be so much I won’t be able to do due to exhaustion, the dishes, laundry, cleaning the bathroom even cooking for hubby to take to work”
She might not visit you at all 🤣🤣😂
Ppl wanna visito to carry a baby that doesn’t have the immunity to fight big ppl viruses but they don’t want to help mom s at all.

absolutely not true, your mum is someone that are okay with seeing you at your worst, your mother in law is completely different!!! Your mum has known you your whole life. She does not have the same priority as your own mother. My mother in law has never even seen me poorly never mind having just been cut open or sitting their in an adult nappy with my boobs out trying to breastfeed. You should only have who you feel comfortable with seeing you at the hospital.

I understand that you disagree with what I said but it’s not “absolutely not true” just cause you didn’t like that I said that.
We can agree to disagree.
As a mother, we know our kids are the most valuable treasure we have and what my mom has explained that having a grandchild feels like it’s a very strong very beautiful love too.
I am not advising to have her MIL care for her or even carrying her grandson, but seeing him. She’s as much a grandma as her mother is to her baby.

When I gave birth I stayed at my moms to avoid ppl from visiting me at my place and tho my husband said it was better so his mom could come and help us… I told him I don’t need your mom to help with our son, but she can always come visit and see him, I am going to my mom because I need my mom to care for me in ways you can’t and ways I am not comfortable with your mom.
I also told him that MIL know they don’t necessarily care for the birthing mom, not if they have such terrible relationship.

my MIL and I have a cordial relationship, she was awful to me during pregnancy and postpartum was hard because she wanted to voice her opinion on everything (I never did what she wanted anyway)
But still I didn’t keep her from seeing her grandbaby. The key word here is seeing.

Believe me, she would come with strong perfume and I would straight up tell her not to carry my baby because I had informed her that nobody could wear perfume to carry a child. (I thought ppl know not to wear perfume but she insisted on wearing it for 3weeks straight after baby was born and I didn’t let her carry him none of those days.

Until one day she called instead of just showing up randomly, said she was going to see baby and the moment she walked through the door washed her hands and change her shirt and guess what? Wasn’t wearing perfume. She said “I’m not wearing perfume, I wanna carry my baby”

Again, MIL is one thing, grandma is another one.
My husband mom can cordially ask to come see…

Her grandbaby and I let them play.

But I have set some boundaries already. It’s been a very bumpy road.

but the person who wrote this isn’t going to stop her mil from seeing her grandchild. She is saying that she does not want the mil in labour and does not want her to be in the room whilst she is pushing. She’s never said that she will stop her mil from seeing the baby forever, she just doesn’t want her there a couple of weeks after they give birth. You need to read the original post. You’ve got the wrong end of the stick. Like if you read what you are saying it’s got nothing to do with what the original post is about.

She wants space at the hospital which is ABSOLUTELY OKAY, and she doesn’t want her mother in law texting her every minute of the day, WHICH IS OKAY. She also is setting boundaries where she doesn’t want the mother in law to come round unless invited, WHICH IS OKAY. What you have said bares no relevance to the person who’s written this post. You’re talking about another subject.

I agree with not being in the L&D room. Lol
She birthed a man, she doesn’t have to be in that room. But I thought she said she didn’t want her to visit for the first few weeks… that’s what I find harsh

yeah but everyone is different Nelly, not everyone has the same rules and boundaries as you, why can’t you acknowledge that?
Some people have different upbringings, families, situations that are COMPLETELY different to you, so why would they have the exact same opinion as you. My mother in law isn’t coming to visit until 2/3 weeks after I give birth, only my mum is, because she’s my mum and I barely know my mil and I don’t want her to see me in that state. My husband agrees. It’s our child and no one else’s, why do they get automatic rights to be there the day after you give birth, it’s your time.

My mum isn’t going to visit due to her chronic condition she can’t travel far but I genuinely don’t want anyone to visit us during these first few weeks. I would be fine with my mum seeing me sooner as I’m her child and she basically knows me like nobody else. I don’t think we should compare our mother to mother in law

And it’s your choice as a mom who comes over and when to visit the new baby. My mil was crazy she behaved like it was her newborn baby. She would call my husband and complain she hadn’t seen him weekly. 😳 I told my husband she does realize that I had the baby right. It isn’t her baby. And one time she invited herself over and tried to grab my baby out of my arms. Nope. I held on to my baby and said we are fine thanks. She left upset. Oh well. And I explained to my husband what she tried to do. That isn’t right marching into my home like I was the babysitter and trying to take my baby away from me. She never did that again.