Does your partner talk to your stomach?

I've asked my partner to talk to the baby and he flat out won't do it. He says it's not his style (I think he finds it cringe) but his adamant he will be a present partner when i give birth. Im a little disheartened because his lack of engagement makes me feel he's not interested in the pregnancy. Has anyone had a similar experience?

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My partner isn't talking to my stomach, if my little one is kicking he will reach to feel and pets my stomach when we are sitting watching TV or relaxing. Similar Anon I don't really talk to my baby unless I am getting frustrated lol sometimes I will say "hi" when he wakes up and starts kicking but that's about the length of it

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My partner doesn’t either but occasionally he will out his hand on my stomach and this feels more special because it’s come from him and not me asking!
I get why you want it, but maybe just take a bit of a step back. The more you ask the more he will resist. It must be hard for a guy because they are in this pregnancy with us but no physical changes for their bodies so talking to your stomach might just make him feel really uncomfortable. I’m sure he will make a good dad regardless xx

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Have you tried to explain why? I have a few of the pregnancy apps and one of them recommended for the partner/family to talk to your belly so when the baby is born they associate with sounds they heard in the womb (I have no idea how accurate that is based on weeks) however I bought an Ewan the sheep the other week and she kicks like crazy for it and we both sit and talk to my belly after seeing how much she reacts to sound 🥰

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Mine doesn’t naturally do it! He will if I ask him too but he’s never had the urge to do so! We have a little girl already and he was the same when I was pregnant with her! He’s a great dad and isn’t disengaged with her at all! Was totally smitten from the second he met her ❤️! Tbh I don’t really talk to the bump that much either! I will say stuff like hey little one if we’re laying in bed and shes kicking but it’s not really my thing tbh! Has no impact on the love or commitment I have to my children 🥰! I personally wouldn’t be worried but if it means alot to you defo worth speaking again X

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Mine did but didn't really say much because he said he didn't really know what to say, I found talking aswell to it and joining in helped a lot, he's now way more confident with talking and the baby moves a lot when he talks! I also read that they are likely to hear their voice of it's deeper because it carries better and it gives them a huge sense of comfort when they hear that same voice when being born! But every person is different and you have to do what's comfortable for you 💕

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Neither of us talk to my tummy, just don’t find it natural. I’m 38 weeks now but this just popped up on my feed, he does feel if I say she’s moving and he rubs the stretch mark cream on my stomach in the evening. I don’t think it will make him any less of a father during birth and when she’s here x

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My husband is constantly talking to my stomach, ever since we found out they can somewhat hear what’s going on outside he wanted to talk them! We’re really hoping that when baby is here it’ll have helped them recognise his voice, it’s also been a really nice way for him to bond with baby :)

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I'm with him, I think it's weird too. My best friend loves talking to mine and I feel so awkward! Each to their own though xx

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My husband did for baby 1, then not so much for baby 2 and now baby 3 we just forget! I can be awkward for them and plus when you chat away to your partner baby will hear his voice!
He will feel my stomach if I say baby is moving!

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The only way my husband talks to the bump is updating him on the sports scores 😂

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