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Tomorrow I’ll be four weeks postpartum and I was wondering has anyone really waited the 6 weeks before having sex I’m like it’s so hard lol

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Yes. I've always waited until my doctor cleared me. If your cervix is still open, you could get an infection. The cervix closes between 4-6 weeks. I personally would rather not risk it

I am 3 weeks postpartum tomorrow and I have had sex already 🥲 my appointment will be next Friday so we will see but honestly it didn’t hurt and I haven’t had any problems yet. I didn’t know about the cervix closing and infections though sooo at your own risk !!

be careful thoo! You are the most fertile after having a baby 🥲

I’ve been waiting…this next Tuesday will be 6 weeks for me. We tried at 5 weeks but it was painful. It’s been really hard to wait!

I can literally go a year without sex im not rushing 😹😹😹

Yeah it hurts me 😭

My doctor cleared me at 5 weeks but told me it was safer to wait the six so we’ve been waiting the extra week

I've waited but I didn't want to but my partner wasn't going to have sex with me until after the 6 week mark became he didn't want to hurt me but once we got the go a head from doctor it was amazing

I'm now 3 weeks pp and not bleeding and I didn't tear at all so it's very tempting but I honestly think it's best to practice self control and fully let your body heal

And let me tell you I hate my own advice but I'm halfway thier I can do it 3 weeks without sex isn't that bad we can do it lol

I’m 4 weeks and it has been SO hard but I would rather wait and make sure everything is ok down there. As much as I want to do it, I’d rather it be a stress free experience.

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Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

Dummy

My baby has had a dummy since about 2 weeks old (now 5 months) and over the course of the last month we weaned her off it during the day only for naps and night (which was fine) and then 5 days took it completely away during the day.

The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

Currently typing this as she screams uncontrollably in the car and I cry with her cos I can’t do anything.

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My LO every feed. Drs don’t seem to think it’s a problem the whole Muslim cloth gets soaked so much I’m using towels now. I’ve tried size O teats he gets really frustrated and still spills it out :(

Of these two, which seems more overall “demanding” to you, overall? Lighthearted poll, not putting anyone down 🫶🏼

As a mum who breastfed for 3 years, I think formula feeding seems 100x harder and more demanding. I give those mamas all the credit because I could not keep up with that faff haha. I truly don’t understand why people say breastfeeding is more effort, other than the fact that no one else can do it. But personally I’d take that over endless bottle prep & cleaning.

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