Ranting/advise

It sounds like you’re doing an amazing job juggling everything, but it’s completely reasonable to hope for some support. Communicating your feelings is essential, and it’s frustrating when the help doesn’t consistently follow through. Maybe having a heart-to-heart with your S/O about specific needs and creating a routine that allows both of you to share responsibilities could make a positive difference. You deserve a bit of a break too, and your well-being matters.

Stop doing much and start resting a little more. Only do chores when you feel like it. I am sure he will realize the change. If he complains, ask him to do some of shores as well.

I lashed out in frustration today and I feel horrible. I don’t want to belittle him as a father but I shouldn’t have to remind him that she needs her butt changed or to even play with her. I understand that to him she’s a little boring but embrace this.

I've literally been in your shoes! So I get how frustrating it can be. It takes time and communication for dads to fully embrace their roles.

My husband is same like yours he is a lazy person and doesn’t help in single household chore .. he in return says its my job as a female.. that makes me frustrated i some time feel like running away with my LO to some new place.. he also comes and judge me finding silly mistakes in me which makes it even frustrating .. I don’t know when he will change.. all i want is some love and understanding my situation..

You are doing amazing. Men sometimes need to be taught all the time what to do and they will do it. Tell him can you do the dishes while I go do whatever else, and after he is done embrace it so he would feel motivated to do them next time. Keep telling him what to do. When you want to ask him to play with your kid tell him ( can you play with her, she is smile and will be happy when you play with her more than she does with me) let him feel special and that he is the only one capable to do something. It is not a direct solutions but hopefully it might be the start of a habit

I totally understand. My husband helps but I’m still carrying most of the load when it comes to the baby while working from home. (Which sounds easy but in my opinion more difficult to get things done). Unfortunately, I think it just comes with the territory. According to all the married moms I know it’s just a part of it. I don’t think most men really understand what we’re going through. They think after labor and delivery everything just goes back to normal or they don’t realize they can actually do more to help.

What I started doing was taking the time for myself. I would physically leave the house for a few hours. We have to start taking the time for ourselves because no one is going to offer it. If you have others to ask like your parents or his parents ask them to watch the baby for a few hours. Don’t be afraid to lean on people you trust. It’s super important.