Love languages
My partner keeps telling me I’m too much because I have different love languages that are all of equal importance ish to me.
Like gifts, words of affirmation and my main one physical touch.
The three are so important to me.
I know it’s not always easy to read someone especially when maybe what they want changes depending on what’s going on
So I try to verbally express my needs and my husband tells me I’m too much that I’m asking for too much
Literally we were in target and my daughter said something about the vday cards and I told him I wonder what cheesy cute card you’ve gotten me
And he was like none and I’m not getting one I told you we were doing something and that’s all can’t that be enough
I swear sometimes I feel like I’m asking for the world but I realize I’m asking for the bare minimum lately.
I have exes that used to show me in one love language how they felt about me but since they put so much empasis on at least one of my love languages it still made me feel whole and loved because they still paid attention to the other little things that mattered but made which ever was easiest for them important
Fuck do I miss being pushed up against a wall and made out with
Candle lit sex and music
Like just even someone telling me I’m beautiful during sex telling me I’m their everything… ☹️
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We had issues of me finding out he cheated while we dated prior to us getting married
This resulted in over a year worth of anger on my part and a bunch of attitude and trust issues
For the past year I’ve been working tirelessly to let it all go
Reining in my attitude but he says basically that’s what put him off that he can’t choose to love on me because of all the things..
So wtf are we even doing??????
Why are you with him?
He can't ‘choose’ to love on you cause you reacted to him betraying you. 🤯🤬. He should have been groveling and doing whatever he could to make it up too you.
So leave. No cheating man is worth staying with. I’m curious why you stayed with him after knowing he cheated? That right there should’ve clued you in to his true feelings towards you.also the whole choosing to love you line if fucking bull shit. When you get married you CHOSE to love them ever single damn day. There will be days when you don’t want to live him cuz you’re so mad, but you still choose to love him because you GENUINELY LOVE HIM. He doesn’t love you. Hes just comfortable. That’s why he’s staying. You deserve better.
it happened I guess early in while we were dating I just had no idea until a few months after we got married
he didn’t used to be like that…. Even when we first got married he used to surprise me all the time
I know financially he’s stressed but he got a raise at work and can pay the bills completely fine no stress prior to that
And now I’m finding out with one day of overtime he brings home close to $400 and he was doing overtime quite often
So now I’m just like it’s been that easy to just do an extra day of work and take me to get my nails done etc
I stopped working after our second baby I had a lot of postpartum complications
You need to ask yourself if this is a relationship you want your kids to grow up watching and thinking is normal. What they see is what they will follow. If you have/will have a daughter one day, and she dates someone who treats her like this, what would you tell her? Is that the kind of example you want to set for her? Don’t let yourself be manipulated into staying. Two home is better then one in situations like this.
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