Telling your kids how babies are made and where they come out from 🌸

Hey all, so my son who’s aged 9, has been asking me for quite some time about how children are made and where they come out from?

Everyone has different feelings about when they feel it’s an appropriate time to tell their children about how children are actually created and they come out of a woman’s vagina or c-section.

Growing up, my mum never told me about how children are made and where they come from. I was a c-section baby which was easy for my mum to tell me because it didn’t involved her having to talk about the private area 😒. I started my period at aged 8, was already wearing bras and had pubic hair and she still couldn’t tell me in detail what that all really meant.

I didn’t know about sex till I learned it in sex education when I was in year 6. But of course, there more to it than just sex and the creation of kids. It’s about teaching children about what it means to be a family, the responsibility of raising a family, the value of partnership relationships and how important the dynamics of relationships are and the consequences of having children in an unhealthy relationship and lots more….

I don’t want to make the same mistake by letting somebody else who has no emotional connection/attachment to my son and therefore they don’t really care about teaching him what it really means to have sex and the sacredness of sex and having children.

It would be great to hear your experiences of telling your kids about the creation of babies and where they come out from. It’s not the easiest topic to discuss and I want to explain it in the best way I possibly can to my son.

Thanks I’m advance 🌺.

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If they're asking tell them, or they will find put from friends

I showed my daughter a cartoon video I found on YouTube

First I told her the basics about male and female anatomy and the video explained what I said even better it was maybe a 5min video

I asked her if she had any questions she said no

I told her about her period and all she was 9 at the time too

I told her we'll discuss more when she starts her cycle like birth control condoms cause around 11 12 that's when schools give sex ed

My son on the other hand never wanted to know 🤦🏽‍♀️

I told him before he starts high school we had to have the talk

All my sin ever asked about was about him and changes he was going thru

He said hair was stuck to him down there lol

And I explained but he never wanted to know more

He's 14 now in 9th grade and I tried to have the talk with him he did not want to

I urged his dad to chat with him

I told my daughter around that age. I didn't get graphic & I explained in a more clinical way both the female and male parts. When she got about 12. I went over it again in more depth and answered questions. I brought up things to initiate conversation, very matter of fact like.

I want her to be informed from a medical and an emotional standpoint. I don't want it to be a big deal or taboo about it. I want her to come to me about questions without fear.
I told her to come to me for protection if she needs it. No shame, no questions. I stressed condoms for std reasons, too.

I was her age when I started having sex. I was a damn baby, but I sure didn't think I was.I don't want to risk it. My mom's attempt at a sex talk happened after I was active

If something comes up in day to day I have a matter of fact conversation to continue demonstrating that open door policy.

I would explain it to him using correct terminology. Ideally, you'd like to have many short conversations and keep building on the topic. This way it isn't overwhelming, but also normalizes it so he feels he can discuss it with you anytime. I would get some books to help with conversations and so he can read on his own. I also recommend checking out amaze.org and sexedrescue.com for help discussing things.

I'd just answer just the question that he's asked I mean if he's asking where they have come from you can just talk about they grow in your tummy and then naturally come out of the vagina and see where the conversation takes you. I think he will appreciate you being honest. I remeber when my parents had 'the talk' with me and it was just when two people love each other.... blah blah but it wasn't the truth. I'd do some research and maybe write down some facts about sex and how a baby grows even get some books to show him pictures of then in the womb, ambikicial cord etc and even show him your scan photos! And if he's keen start talking about periods so he understands the woman's side of things too so he is able to understand when some his friends who have periods soon he will have some understanding around that subject :)

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