Sleep cries

Anyone little ones still do sleep cries? Some night its quite often when she's moving position etc sometimes just one or 2. I'm due second baby and will eventually want them to be sharing room but just worried about the sleep cries waking eachother up 😅 even if my eldest stops by then the next one will be doing it. Or is it just my lo now does it more than most? Sometimes they are so sudden and really startling

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My daughter does them too. She will randomly cry and changes position and then after a couple minutes goes back to sleep. Sometimes it does make me jump too. I also had this thought as i am pregnant with my 2nd too and they will be sharing. Sorry i'm not any help. Just in the same boat as you🤣

My daughter does this too. It’s when she’s moving around her cot. Sorry I don’t have any advice. Hopefully it stops soon x

Yeah I think it's normal. Most people make some sort of noise when they sleep, like even as adults, but it's usually not enough to wake the other person, unless you happen to be at the exact moment in the sleep cycle that you are closest to being awake. But then you usually just roll over and get comfy and fall back to sleep. They will get used to eachother noises. You wake easier at the cry because you are mom and biologically conditioned to that sound.

I also want my kids to share a room. My plan is to just keep them separate until the second sleeps through the night as well so he doesnt wake her with his like feed me cry. She started sleeping through most nights between 9-12 months then solidly everynight around 12 or 13 months so crossing my fingers he is the same or sooner lol

My daughter is exactly same and most of the times I am jumping of my bed it’s even worse because I am 27 weeks pregnant so I don’t know how I will be able cope with both of them but hopefully it will sorted out soon for all of us.

I was literally coming on the app to ask if anyone was going through sleep cries. They’re so scary, I’m such a worrier but I even thought it could be epilepsy because I have it. I’m bringing her to a paediatrician but this post has reassured me ❤️

yeh my plan was to wait until the next one is sleeping through before putting them together. 1st one was 9 months ish. We have no choice but for them to share so I'm hoping its no later than my lg 😆

I’ve my two sleeping together btw, 20 months and 8 months, they don’t even hear eachother during the night. I moved my little one in when she was 6 months. I would’ve said my first was a light sleeper but she doesn’t even notice me coming into the room to her sister now

ah thats good to hear! Was there an adjustment period where they would wake initially for your eldest when the little one moved in?

The first night they cried every time they heard each other (it was a long night with VERY little sleep), then the next night my eldest cried whenever I went in to feed my little one, and then by Monday they were completely used to each other. Eldest didn’t even hear me popping in to put babies dummy in etc. As I said my eldest is sleep crying and it doesn’t bother my baby at all doesn’t even flinch. They nap together, I’m able to take my toddler out and baby will sleep for another hour.😊

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Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

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Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

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With our first child, I tried to breastfeed, but due to my own medical issues postpartum, baby and I were separated a lot and my milk dried up so quickly. We introduced formula around 2 weeks PP, and I tried pumping as much as I could, but it just lead to nothing. It was heartbreaking. It definitely ruined a lot of those early weeks for me, I was wrecked with guilt and sadness. I cried every day and felt like such a failure.

Now my son is a healthy, happy 2 year old and I eventually came to terms with formula feeding him. He was quite content with the first formula we tried, never had feeding or gas issues etc, so it felt like a much easier option.

Obviously my husband witnessed all of this and now we're expecting our second baby, he sort of assumed we'd just go straight to formula.

I told him pretty early that I'd like to try breastfeeding again, and although I won't be putting so much pressure on myself this time, I've also done more research and I'm more prepared for the hard times that might come up in the early days/weeks, and I'm trying to prepare for any complications.

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