I just need to vent. Im scared and want to cry.

So tonight while i was cutting up some fruit, my son, my mum and step dad (SD shorten) are all in the living room. Now they own four dogs and ive had to work around as my son thinks everything spins including the dogs or he will grab their tails. So i move the dogs out of the way as i read somewhere and im following that, SD wont acknowledge that so while one of the dogs is on the floor begging for food at my mum. My son is behind him. SD shouts at my son No, and doesnt move to put the dog out of the way as dogs dont move when in this situation theyll just bite. So because my son doesnt listen (hes not even 1 yet) SD scoots forward points his finger and starts shouting in anger no and pointing his finger in my sons face repeats the No a lot and it gets more intense till he makes my son cry, do bare in mind this isnt a slow thing this is all done in 10 seconds, which takes that amount of time to get to my son. I go and put the dog out of the way and stood infront of my son and told SD you dont shout like that at him. Now, SD doesnt like being told off and he goes and starts shouting at me telling me to fuck off hes had enough and that ive been swearing at my son all day and shouting at him. 1. I was watching youtube and was talking out loud to the tv and 2. I had this on for roughly an hour until I put my sons background noise so i can read my book which i have proof. Yes i broke down this morning as my son was proving a bit difficult but i wasnt swearing at all but muttering to myself and asking my son to calm down while clearing things away to take him downstairs.
Anyway, i tell him i wasnt and he continues to say i was and then threatens to kick me out. Im in money struggles and im on the council but having no luck right now... even my mum tells him to stop shouting infront of my son but he doesnt and threatens to kick her out too. I can do nothing wrong and hell snap. Ill ask for respect and for my boundaries to be respected with myself and my child and he doesnt. He gets angry and all that everytime. I cant move out till i have the money... he wont do this infront of any of friends or family members.

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I know you just wanted to vent and probably don’t want a response but If you live in the UK tell your council he has kicked you out of the house and get your mum to write a letter confirming this is your last week in the house as you’ll now be homeless, they’ll have no choice but to move you to a temporary accommodation with your baby. I cannot imagine what you’re going through with SD I also wouldn’t want to live with someone who doesn’t respect me nor my child and since it is his house one day he could follow through on his threats.

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Look for help like a women's shelter call your city and ask. Also maybe s church can help. In my small town, we have a woman shelter that helps get woman out of abusive situations.

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they rent the house and both of them are on the agreement

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Even better. If you are a uk resident phone the council in your area and explain to them your being kicked out they have no choice but to house you somewhere especially because you have a child.

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