Bf doesnt want me to put bd on bc

I wouldn’t! You can always add him later but you can’t just remove him. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Also if you get married your husband can adopt if the ex isn’t being a father and that could be a reason to amend your first borns birth certificate? Also your boyfriend now unless it’s going to turn into marriage, I’d just do what seems right to you and go based off of your own judgement. I dated dudes after my daughters donor and they would have been worse options but my husband has an open spot for when he officially adopts my daughter! My ex pays child support though so we have to establish a marriage and life before it’s easy breezy to adopt and we are going for abandonment from my ex too so waiting on that time frame.

Yeah I’m confused by your post because in one sentence you say he barely helps and y’all don’t have a set schedule, then in another sentence you say he’s changed a lot.
If you regretted putting him on the bc with your first, chances are it’ll be the same with the second. Don’t make that same mistake twice when he’s already shown you his true colors.
Ultimately, the decision is yours.

I wouldn’t if he’s already not doing much for baby #1… idk if you’re thinking about child support but if you ever think about doing it, he doesn’t have to be in the birth certificate