Feeling so miserable

Hi all
I don’t even know how to start this.
It’s been such a long and treacherous road for me this being my 8th pregnancy and hopefully my first baby. I am just at the end of the first trimester and I am so miserable, I cry everyday, I struggle to sleep but sleep if the only time I don’t feel horrid. I am more than grateful for being pregnant right now and the pregnancy going well. I have not been able to eat much, I can’t even drink water it makes me throw up, I have had to be hospitalised to get fluids. I just feel so helpless and my mental health has taken a massive hit because I can’t stand any smells so I am couped up in my room. I just want to be myself again and just feel a little like me. I am so afraid of what I am feeling and not wanting to sound ungrateful, but God knows I want this baby. I can see it taking a toll on my husband too because he doesn’t like to see me this way and he can’t comfort me with hugs and just being near me because I can’t stand his smell, he’ll I can’t even stand my own. I just feel so helpless and miserable 😞

Just needed to let this out.

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Your feelings are 100% valid but please be easy on yourself. With my first pregnancy (which ended as a late miscarriage at 21wks) I had severe HG and had all the symptoms you did and even considered abortion although I wanted the baby. The truth is it gets better.. i promise you. You might not see the light at the end of the tunnel just yet but I woke up one day at 15wks pregnant and I felt like myself again, I remember throughout my first trimester I couldnt even shower or brush my teeth due to smell or sickness. I hated my husband & his smell, I had lost over 15kg because I couldnt eat and in my second trimester I felt like a newborn!! This is my second pregnancy and although I'm not as bad as my first pregnancy I still cannot keep anything down, but I know it gets better. Please try to be patient.

When everyone around me with kids used to say second trimester gets better I used to get so angry because it felt like a lie, so please be kind to yourself. Your feelings are valid❤️

Sending you a big hug 😥 my friend also had a horrific first trimester and couldn’t keep anything down and was pretty much bedridden but it did end for her eventually, I hope you get some respite from your symptoms soon! ❤️

thank you so much, it’s a breath of fresh air to hear someone understand what I am going through. I hope that day comes soon because I am also losing so much weight and very scared about that.

All the best with this pregnancy ❤️

thank you so much, I hope so too ❤️

I totally sympathise with you. This is my second baby but oh my lord I had forgotten how terrible the first trimester is. I cry every night in bed anxious to go to sleep because I’m up constantly throughout the night, I have a sick bucket next to my bed and end up heaving all night and I say to my partner I can’t do this. I seriously know how you feel.
BUT I promise you it gets better, you WILL NOT feel like this the whole pregnancy. For me, 16 weeks is when I began to feel brand new again. You got this mumma ✨🫶🏻

awwwww you got this too mama!
I’m the same have a sick bucket, have a spit bag as well…it’s really just so hard. 🫶🏽

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