How many times do u wake up with 6month old at night?

Ok mamas need help. So in argument with grandparents. Getting told I spoil my 6 month old daughter because when she wakes up at night I take her out to living room and feed a bottle then rock to sleep. Is that normal? Am I doing that wrong? We’ve done this since she was little. She wakes up at least 2-3 a night. Should she be sleeping without waking to eat? Sorry first time mom here and tired of getting judged. Typically goes to bed from 8:30- 4:30am. We do have a very busy lifestyle so it does vary some nights but even then she only wakes up handful of times I consider this a full nights of rest for us since we normally go to bed 9-3am when boyfriend gets up for work. But everyone on boyfriend’s side is saying I spoil her. When she does wake sometimes I can sooth her without getting her out of bed while gently patting, but it’s hard since she’s not a fan of binkies. Any advice!

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Also I’ve looked into it and it would be considered dream feeding I believe since she’s not fully awake she’s moved around but doesn’t cry unless left there for a bit. Normally I can give a full feeding or sometimes half and she falls right back to sleep unless it’s after 7am then it Varys since she is an early riser

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There is no such thing as spoiling a baby! You’re doing great mama❤️ every baby varies on how they sleep and when they eat. My 6 month old goes to bed at 6:30pm and wakes up at 7am usually. As long as baby is happy and healthy keep doing what works for you and baby ❤️ if you do want to have her sleep though the night though you could make sure she’s getting maybe a little more to drink during the day, so she doesn’t wake up in the middle of the night to eat.

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that’s the thing tho she eats all day long I feel like. And that’s with bottles and bby food. She’s been teething since 2 months. And has many ear infections but will be getting tubes soon. So I’m thinking that has a lot to do with as well. But we live with boyfriend’s grandparents and I’m always getting judged for it. We originally started me getting her up and feed/rocking to sleep to not disturb everyone else in household and she’s gotten in routine of it. There’s nights she sleeps all night and some she doesn’t

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Oh yeah her ear infections could have something to do with it too. It’s so hard to figure out what exactly makes it that they do or don’t sleep throughout the night. One thing I have noticed with my little one, if she doesn’t get at least 24oz during the day, that’s when she’ll wake up in the middle of the night. Has she started to roll over yet? That is what also can wake up my little one. I’m sorry you’re getting judged ☹️ it sounds like you’re doing a great job and doing exactly what your baby needs

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Every baby is different you are doing great. Whatever makes you feel more confortable its the best. Sometimes babies are ready to let go some feedings at but we arent ready. My baby is 8 months and I still give her one dream feeding at 10 pm. She sleeps from 7pm to 6 am. I think she is already ready to leave that bottle too , but im not lol 😂😂. And its true whenever you are ready try to feed her more during the day.

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I agree with there is no such thing as spoiling a baby, especially that young. They have basic needs and can’t help themselves. Things like sleep training are okay if you are sleep deprived because sleep is important to a parents health… but honestly that isn’t natural. I read a book by a PhD sleep expert and it really made me think. Western society tries to imposes values on babies like independence and self soothing before they are ready. That all will happen when they are developmentally ready. Would any other mammal not attend their their infant? Go with your instincts and address your needs and your baby’s needs. You’re doing great!!

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