3 year old boy wants a dress

My 3 year old son is really into Elsa. The little girls at his daycare wear her dresses and have her capes and now he wants them. He does have an Elsa doll but my husband is very against the dresses. He wants him to understand he’s a boy and not push him towards these girl things. Anyone have experience with this kind of thing? It’s giving me anxiety. Any advice is appreciated!!!

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It sounds like he just wants to play dress up... maybe get him a fireman outfit or cowboy outfit and see what he thinks 😊

At that age they just want to do what their peers are doing and he sees the happiness of dressing up. Kids don't understand sexual differences like what your husband is thinking. I would personally give my child a few different options of dressing up (doesn't have to be "girly") and see how he reacts to it. Kids like to feel they are the boss with what they choose.

Let him wear the dress! It’s a character he loves. It doesn’t go deeper into that! He wants to have fun and play with his friends.

Where did you find this? or what did you google?

Thank you everyone for your feedback. I also feel like he’s just wanting to play dress up and doesn’t see the difference but my husband is having a hard time with it.

He’s 3, wearing a dress doesn’t mean anything to him except that he’s getting to dress up as a character he likes. It’s not ‘pushing him’ to girly things, he’s literally asking for it. What harm could it possibly do? Would you have the same concerns if a 3 year old girl wanted to dress as Spider-Man?

It's just dress up. In my opinion there's nothing wrong with boys having female role models & vice versa. I'd let him wear the dress if he wants to. I don't buy into stereotypical gender roles.

I would buy the dress. A little boy and even an adult men shouldn't need to prove their virility in any cases just buy not wearing a dress.

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