Advice about feeding

We don't have a set routine as such, but here's roughly how our day goes.
Wake 8am
Breakfast 8.20ish
Milk and snack 10.30ish
Nap 11ish (depending on whether we go out to groups or anything)
Lunch 1pm
Snack and milk 3.30pm
Dinner between 5&6pm (depending on my eldest's clubs)
Milk 7pm
Milk 8.30pm sleep.
He still wakes in the night for Milk. We BF so no idea how much he actually drinks.
Meals are hit and miss. We have good meals where he smashes the lot and others where he just plays and it ends up on the floor. We find he prefers different textures when teething or when he has a cold. We do get lots of mess, but his firm favourite foods are Sunday roast, spaghetti bolognase, pasta bake, cold chicken, chips and peas, at the moment he is eating square sausage and potato scone another favourite. Breakfast he likes cheerios, rice krispies, cornflakes, toast or pancakes. He loves croissants and oat bars for snacks.

We don’t have a set time on weekends but ours knows how to do the milk sign language so we know when she wants milk (but that is often when she is hungry and should have food rather than milk!)

I could have written this myself! Honestly, please do message me privately if you want to chat because I’m at a total loss too and find it really complicated. I feel like others mums really have their shit together and I’m spiralling!

@Chloe I felt the same for a long time then discovered that a lot of mums don't have their shit together but a lot of them are good at pretending. We have a rough routine but nothing set in stone. My little boy is hitting some milestones but not others. He still babbles he prefers to crawl even though he can walk. I worry I'm holding him back with his speech as i forget to talk. I have PND. I still find some days a real challenge. My house looks like a bombs hit it as my mother would say.

Mine is probably roughly the same as Natalia and again no set routine just follow baby. She has her breakfast same time around 8 as me so we eat together, shower her, dressed she plays for a bit once she starts getting tired about 11 she has bottle. Wakes up give it half hour then she has lunch again 1-2 hours later bottle. Dinner around 5 same as us. If she whinging/shows she hungry offer snacks fruit a biscuit or something in between. Bath around 8, bottle after and she’s down 8.30-9. I’m not one for a set routine as such just follow her lead and our own what we usually do otherwise it becomes too stressful! I figure if she doesn’t eat it she’s not hungry. I wouldnt offer milk throughout the day as it’s filling and she might not want to eat if she has milk. But depends on her age and how much she’s having I guess. Start as you mean to go on, all our meals are roughly the same time except she has extra snacks in between if she gets a bit whingey but I try to get her to hold out x