Mum guilt

Anyone else going through a hard time with their second/ still adjusting to being a mum of two?

I have a 5year old and a 5.5month old and of course I wouldn't change them for the world. But I can't help think how much easier it was as a mum of one.

My 5month old is going though a very fussy stage and if he isn't eating or sleeping, his wake period can be tiring tying to keep him happy and entertained.

The mum guilt is real and the days are long, but I know it won't last forever.

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Yep same age gap here and my daughter started school the day o had my second! Feel that she has to fend for herself a little but! Think it’s the thing I’ve found the hardest to be honest x

Same here. Iv had mum guilt from day 1. My eldest has just turned 19 months and youngest 5 months and I feel so guilty some days that I’m not spending as much time with the eldest who doesn’t always understand that I can’t play with her at that moment because I’m feeding/changing the baby etc but also on the flip side I feel like I’m not doing as much with my youngest like I did with my eldest because I have one or the other to tend too. I know it won’t last forever but it doesn’t stop you from feeling guilty

Yes I can fully relate to this. Our 2.5 year old daughter is really struggling atm with sharing our attention with her baby brother and it’s coming out in her behaviour (she’s been hitting 😭). She doesn’t like it when I feed the baby (he’s breastfed) and I have to make a special effort to make her feel loved. It’s kind of heartbreaking 💔

my due date with my second was the first day of reception but thankfully I went over a week so I could take her to school for her first day. We must be close in age gaps then!

Yeah it’s a lot but it’s a lot more love too, less time to myself but I know when I have more time to myself I’ll be wishing for my babies to be back in my arms. Regardless of how things are I try to remember that.

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
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