Venting

Been at my parent’s place for 6 weeks with my baby… my husband comes for 3-4 hours at night and then leaves…my child has a few issues so requires extra care and iv had a c section. So that means sleepless nights for me for the past 6 weeks and hectic during the day since he is fussy throughout . My parents are old so naturally they cant do what an active person. Initially he used to come but throw a tantrum as to why my parents are not helpful me like they should so that i can get sleep and im not super tired when he comes because he feels guilty and has to come everyday had theyy helped me he would not… but then finally he got off my back on that when i said they are old and are doing more than enough….What pissed me off is i haven’t stepped out of the house since then and my husband instead of asking me to go have a me day or pamper day… he decided to go see a movie by himself yesterday. Although i mentioned to him our son was unwell and we had a rough night, he said nice things like it will get better and once you are here we will tag team this, but at the same time he decided to go see a movie and reduce the time he could have spent with me knowing i had it rough and a meltdown… is this me overreacting?? Our LO is sensitive so him bringing germs from the theater is also bothering me so much!!! He should have known better

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I think it’s lovely that your parents are trying to support you… when do you and your son plan on heading home? It’s possible your husband misses you both and is in a position now that you’ve healed more to support you both? Maybe being closer and starting your at-home-routine would be great for both of you and bubs?

What made you want or need to go to your parents? Was it to help your recovery while your husband had to work? Because him not being around makes it seem like he doesn't think you need his support. With more time with you and having him take on responsibilities it can definitely help change his attitude towards the situation.

It's great to have your parents support but being in your home may be really what's needed overall.

I went there because he low key wanted me to go there so burden was not on him initially….Yes i want to move back but i know he wont help me ! He doesn’t like to be inconvenienced. My baby is very demanding and he can only have him for a few hours without getting a little frustrated. If my appointment is early morning he gets angry because he doesn’t like to compromise his sleep . So imagine once im back and with a demanding baby 24 hours - he will lash out on me like he always does. He has anger issues and justifies thay later by saying something like i did this that to trigger him or else he wouldn’t act this way ….but i need to go back to see right

He sounds literally useless and you're better off not having him around 🤷

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

5 month old activities

Hey everyone my baby is 5 months old and I want to reduce/cut screen time as I have read up on how bad it is what activities did people do to keep their baby entertained. Thank you in advance.

I feel physically sick

I was going through my partners phone. He doesnt mind it. I let him go through mine,we have our emails on the tablet im an open book nothing to hide. I fine this one girl on his phone, they know each other they used to work together. Then I see that he is asking about her dating life blah blah. Then he texted "lucky enough you are one of a few beautiful" um WTF & " thats what i said if not i will have been with you" we have a 16 month old together we are engaged. I cant sleep he is sleeping next to me and I feel so sick I cant ive cried twice and I feel like im breaking