Please help because honest to god I feel like I'm going to have a mental breakdown, my oldest child is 13 and is now identifying as non binary which of course I'm trying to respect and adapt too but now my 10 year old daughter says she's a Therian and I honestly will hold my hand up and say I went off on one a bit. I don't know what the right thing to do is, I feel like what's the right decision here? Do I have no daughters anymore? ššš Part of me think this world is so F**d up.. I actually can't handle this shit. Does anyone else have the same views as me or am I doing it all wrong. God help me please š
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What is a Therian??

Iām sorry. That makes my head spin

Same!

You not alone, actually insane all of this

Ugh im so sorry mama. I blame society and the world we live in today.
Continue being open about it and try to educate. I feel a lot of kids are just going through the phase to be ārelevantā, gain attention or fit in with todayās world. Some of them snap out of it. Of course canāt speak for your children but want to encourage you to keep your head up and donāt give up hope.ā¤ļø

Oh god I hope your ok that is real tough to deal with I also agree the world is fucked up.. I think the generation now and to come is scary what they have to deal with and aswell as the internet like I mean when i was young we didn't have the internet or phones and I loved and think it's way much better.š¢

This is why I wanna homeschool ššš I feel like most young people want to fit in so they will truly believe they are apart of a group even if they arenāt really and at that age itās hard because ur trying to find yourself and what u like vs dislike. Itās not just that for me my main reason is in school I had horrible teachers that brought down my confidence & I want to nurture my childās love for school but I do see a lot of kids identify as things they shown no previous interest in because itās whatās popular or all their friends are doing it.

itās always the schoolās faultā¦..š¤¦š»āāļø

I never said the school was at fault for anything maybe u @ the wrong person.

You didnāt say you want to homeschool?

Yes 100% I want to homeschool but again I didnāt blame the school for anything at all. Reread my comment I mentioned teachers made me feel less than. Nothing to do with school as a whole being good or bad just my preference to homeschool based on my personal experience.

the teachers make the schoolā¦.

love how you are trying to gaslight me. I donāt need to reread anything. I got it loud and clear the first time I read your comment ā

Nobody at all is gaslighting you idk why ur trying to argue u said āitās always the schools faultā I never blamed the school for anything I never said āschools are bad so Iām homeschoolingā or āschools corrupt kids.ā All I said is I had a bad experience so Iām homeschooling and ur response is āitās always the schools faultā relax damn

I understand 100% now on ur profile it says ur a teacher so u took it offensively. I bet youāre an amazing teacher but my experience was horrible so I will not allow my kids to be put in the situations I was. I want to nurture their love for school like I said before. Also, as a teacher u should know what gaslighting means nothing I said was gaslighting u asking u to reread a comment isnāt gaslighting

you say they arenāt learning this is school when schools are now having to speak up on these specific topics, having a full hour class reintroducing students to who and what they want to be. I never had this in school and I never ever grew up knowing anyone to not think they were either boy or girl. I definitely think thereās a correlation here.

jesĆŗs. idek how iād deal with that

I may get hated for this, I donāt care if you think youāre a girl be a girl or a boy be a boy. But it gets to a point when weāre just enabling stupidity for the sake we canāt say our own opinions anymore. We have to let people, our kids think theyāre bloody foxesā¦? When itās more than the imagination play. What you gonna kick them out the house because foxes are wild, feed them raw meat, no of course not!!!
How far does this actually go. Ultimately theyāre just going to get bullied and we have to enable them

I think people freak out way more than necessary. Non binary just means your child feels like they don't 100% fit as a girl or boy. The idea of being a Therian is much more broad and honestly comes off to me as just an interest. It's just a way to explore and be creative. It's typically more of a phase, and doesn't require you to do anything but allow it to happen. And schools don't promote anything, I learned about Therians and Otherkins online.
People need to be more calm when faced with their kid's identifying as what they want. It's really not that deep. Just love your kids, support them in being who they are.

And to make it clear to those calling Therians crazy, it's obviously not a person believing they are an animal. It is a person believing they were born in a human body when they were meant to be an animal. It's a way for that person to feel comfortable with themselves. The best thing to do, is just see why they feel like that and what you can do to help them feel happy as they are without forcing them to change.
I understand what you're saying but we can't all just be calm when faced with these things, it's not nothing to me, I am aware it may be a phase, or she's just loving this new role play, she has a tail and she's bought masks to decorate etc I'm not crushing her little imagination or anything but for myself I'm genuinely scared of how severely this will stick, I dont believe this is an authentic original feeling my daughter as she told me it was since she was 9... Her birthday was literally Feb 25th lol I just hate the internet etc (her dad got her a phone at the age of 6 against my wishes) and I just feel like I wish they didn't have to feel the need for labels. Perhaps she's feeling left out due to the non binary subject being quite major in our house that surrounds her sibling. I had a chat with her I apologised for my reaction and I told her she can wear her tail, she can be whatever animal she wants but she's still human and that nothing is permanent, minds change and sometimes they don't..
But I reinforced that I love her and she's amazing and I want her to do what she finds fun, I'm trying to go with the flow but I can't deny that it's an unnatural world to me nowI really do try not to judge people, but I just can't accept adults walking about on all fours being an animal I'm sorry I just can't at the moment

Props to you, this I believe is the best thing you can do at this moment in time.

A therian is not identifying as an animal in a physical way it is a spiritual way, she still knows sheās is a human, itās a belief she was an animal in a past life and she expresses herself by wearing āgearā which is tails mask ect. And walking around or jumping on all fours is called quadrobics, it is considered a sport amongst many of them, even some non-Therian people do them