Refusing to sleep in next to me/Moses basket

Same is happening with my boy. He’s not been sleeping well the past couple of nights. He is showing signs of reflux so going to get a GP appointment for him

My sister had this problem with my nephew, he would only sleep on her and she would be up all night with him. She’s now been told he has silent reflux which explains why and is now on the right medication to help him and it’s great. Xx

I started swaddling my baby girl and it worked. She didn’t like her arms being swaddled so I left them free

She didn’t like Velcro swaddle blankets only cellular blankets

I promise it does get better… I was at wits end with the same issue. She sleeps solid 2-6 everyday and then again 8-11 which is way more of a routine then we had before which was 1 hours sleep a night!

Another thing to try is wear a comforter during the day - pinned to you and then pin it to the side of the next to you cot (away from face) so they can smell you x

It's pricey but we caved. My little one didn't take to our snuzpof crib, presumably be sure she didn't find it cocooning enough. She doesn't like swaddles. This Purlflo has meant she sleeps 2/3 hour stretches between feeds in the night and goes back to the crib: https://www.johnlewis.com/purflo-sleep-tight-baby-bed-soft-white/p5665997?s_ppc=2dx_mixed_home_BAU&tmad=c&tmcampid=2&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjw-r-vBhC-ARIsAGgUO2BOdMTUsVGR9y9pf_nz24I4Npo9QSTLJ-4Z9HS-Y0SQnqhQXWYtsL4aAgKdEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

My firstborn was like this and the midwives gave us some tips! One that I found helpful was filling a hot water bottle and putting it into the bed to cosy it up then taking it out before you put baby in, sometimes the change in temp can wake them! They also told me to put a Muslin or similar down my bra all day and put it into babies bed at night so they can smell you and know you are close! White noise also seemed to help!x

Mine is the same. Swaddling helps a little but still looking for more solutions..

We put the Moses basket in the next to me and that helps, also found that after changing her putting her in her sleeping bag and then feeding before putting down makes a huge difference. We have a pink noise machine that also gives off red light. Good luck x

Definitely swaddling.

Also I do have an electric heated pad that someone I know swears by. (You warm the next to me up whilst they’re feeding and obviously take it away before putting them down so it’s nice and toasty) We haven’t had to use it yet but apparently it helps them not notice the change in body heat when you put them down

I watched a tik tok about this that said when laying them down lay them so their bum touches the cot first, followed by back shoulder and head then leave one hand on the head and one on the chest/tummy until they settle so they can feel you still and I have to say that has deffo helped the last 2 nights- not every time but most. We have a comforter and white noise already so I’m thinking to try a hot water bottle next to warm to cot while I’m feeding although I have seen it’s advised not to do this x

Thank you so much for these tips, I’m going to give them all a try and hopefully I will get some sleep tonight!! 🤞🤞🤞 x

oh also I forgot to say.

The one thing that calms my 3 wk old without fail is putting my pinky in his mouth to suck (upside down). Guaranteed that will stop him in his tracks and I have done it to get him to sleep a few times. Just got to make sure they’re def asleep before taking it out of their mouth!


P.s I did check with the midwife that this was ok coz I was worried about hygiene but she said yes of course it’s not a problem coz you’re his mum 🙃

My baby is like this and the only thing that helps is (safe) co-sleeping! He does 3/4 hour stretches since we started co-sleeping.

I’ll probably be crucified for this. But I had this with my baby. After weeks and weeks of no sleep. And I mean NO sleep. We would be fighting with him all night to put him down and he was scream bloody murder. Me and my partner had to take shifts.

We changed to a Moses basket and bought a nest. And finally, he will go in it and sleep at night. We purchased an Owlet sock for peace of mind and changed the nest to a purflow which is breathable. But this is the only thing that’s given us sleep. Sometimes we do have nights where he wants to be on me, and I am guilty of having fallen asleep with him, but do what works for you!! Xx

we have the Purlflo too. It's been through testing and the only nest on the market suitable for sleeping in overnight :) it's made a big difference to how our little girl sleeps

Where do you put your pure flow?

I put mine inside my Snuzpod crib. And then it's portable, so I'll use on top of my King size bed, or on the rug downstairs for short stretches when I put her down during the day

in the Moses basket.. we tried it in the next to me and he hated it still. So we just stick with the basket and he settles fine in there now, he just feels more contained. The next to me is just too big 🥺

Oh I might try that, I think that is probably part of the issue as she will sometimes have a nap in the Moses basket in the day and then refuses to sleep at night in the next to me. X

Try a finger in the mouth until they go back to sleep. Sometimes my little one will seem as though she’s crying but she’s actually asleep still then she settles again x

How about swaddling? Moses basket in the next to me.

Thank you for commenting brought a swaddle bag yesterday and used it overnight with a very happy calm baby when laid down!!! Finally got some sleep 😀😀

I've tried heating cot and finger in mouth now thanks to these suggestions. Seems to help a little and sometimes but still sporadic. Hoping he just grows out of this