If your husband apologies for something he's done that hurt you...how do you truly accept the apology without feeling hurt anymore?

Just because someone apologizes for something, it doesn't mean that you have to be ready to forgive them. One of my favorite analogies is that doing something to hurt someone like calling them names or betraying them is like crumpling up a piece of paper. Apologizing is like smoothing out that piece of paper, but you can't get rid of all the wrinkles. Those wrinkles are the hurt that action caused. I'm in a very similar situation myself, although the apology given to me was very hollow. I can't forgive someone who isn't really sorry or doesn't understand what's wrong with what they did.

You could have a sit-down conversation about it and explain to him that it still bothers you and tell him the reasons why. Maybe there's something deeper to it that's why your still feeling bothered.

thanks for that analogy it's so true. In my case I do believe he's sorry and understands why I'm upset it's just difficult to get it out my mind and the feeling is hard to get rid of

yeahh I had a sit down with him and I feel a bit better but I can't just shake the hurt feelings

Well I don't think you can just switch to not caring, it probably takes time and you might remember it from time to time. But if his actions show that he is truly sorry and understands why you are hurt, you will likely think less of it. Might take a while though, depending on what happened and what will happen. That's okay, you are not a robot that can manually control your feelings

that's a good point, I wish I could manually switch of some emotions though but yeah I'm not a robot so I'll have to be patient with myself x

All you can do is give yourself time to heal. You don’t just magically feel better to r because someone says sorry. And that’s okay. You have to feel the emotions, not push them away. My recommendation is that you tell him you are still hurt but that you are grateful for the apology. And then give him time to show through his actions that he is truly sorry. There’s no timeline on healing and remember he’s the one who hurt you. Not the other way around you have no obligation to making him feel better for his mistakes.