Poop after stitches!

Does anyone have any advice? I had my baby on Thursday and I've not pooped yet. I've had stitches on grazes and tears inside and one on my perineum.

I'm still in hospital only on paracetamol and I don't want to rush a poop but I'm unsure how to go about it? What can I do to make it easier? So scared it's going to hurt like mad 😫

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Take laxatives it helps so much to make sure it’s soft and you don’t have to squeeze much x

Lactulose syrup twice a day, your midwife can give you. I also made sure to eat foods high in fiber, porridge with oat milk in the morning and fruits. If that fails and you are desperate to poop RIGHT now, I use glyceril suppositories as they work in matter of 3-7 minutes for me and don’t have any side effects. https://www.boots.com/boots-pharmaceuticals-constipation-relief-suppositories-24-x-4g?cm_mmc=bmm-buk-google-ppc-_-LIAs-_--_-PMax:+UK_Smart_Shopping_LIAs_Health&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADrIajVGCwC6OhJSD-qG4E29NsMty&gclid=Cj0KCQjwhtWvBhD9ARIsAOP0Goh7d41RJtyIxbXbQx7vbbTmvzgBwwzij3f-ypb6_6PeQta2EkHqLq4aAlBPEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

Hold a clean pad over your perineum to support it when you poo, makes it seem less scary!

Amazing thank you all! It's a hard balance because I'm on antibiotics for a possible infection which gives me diarrhea so I'm taking probiotics but also don't want to be bunged up 😩 worse being in hospital hopefully I can go home today so I can poop in peace with all my supplies lol x

I had c section so slightly different but my advice from physio was knees higher than belly button and don't push, breath it out. It worked for me. She also advised holding a dry rolled up towel to the wound though I'm not sure if and how this would work for you

Hi lovely, I had the equivalent of 14 labial stitches and 2 quite sizeable internal tears (my own fault for pushing when she told me not to🤣).

I don’t think I went until like day 4 BUT it definitely wasn’t as bad as I was expecting. I’d heard the “it’s like giving birth again” and it honestly wasn’t. My advice is try not to work yourself up about it in your head as the anxiety will make it 100 x worse. I ate dates (hated them but they helped keep things on the softer side). Sounds very dumb but I also bit down on a towel on the first time as a *just in case it hurt*, which it didn’t. Keep yourself hydrated, drinking plenty of water & ask for laxatives if you are struggling. Don’t try and push/strain with the stitches 🤎🤎

Thank you for all the support! I've pooped! I was discharged so much happier doing it at home and it was totally fine, I had visions of ripping again but I'm still in tact (as can be) ❤️

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