Baby Blues, 3 days post birth

The baby blues have joined the chat. Had a 1 minute video call with my bf and as soon as I hung up, emotions overtook me but it hurts my c-section wound to cry.
I'm also the most sore I've been as last night I didn't have anyone stay with me in the hospital. I did everything myself. My last baby was 9 years ago so it was a lot but me and baby boy survived our night. Luckily the midwives at my hospital are absolutely fantastic and are always present for what I need.

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Aww honey you’re doing great ♥️ it will soon pass
Ps. Your little one is absolutely adorable 🥰

Completely normal to feel this way. I had my first bub 3 weeks ago & had no idea what they meant by baby blues. It didn’t hit me until about day 5 & my god did it hit me. I spent atleast 10 consecutive days crying. He would cry, i would cry. It was a never ending cycle which i thought would never end. I thought that was going to be my life forever, but it stopped. I know it’s hard, but try your best to surround yourself with positive people, people that understand how hard it truly is to have a baby. Yes they’re cute but they really do change your life in more then one way. If you ever need to talk send me a message. Hang in there mama🫶🏼🫶🏼

It’s totally normal! I had it with my first. It passed after 10 days or so xxx

Yes, I know it's normal. He's my 2nd. With my daughter, I remember watching movies one day and bursting into tears 2 minutes into the Spice Girls movie lol.
My pregnancy with him was also very emotional, much more than my previous.

Congratulations just focus on ur baby smiles and it'll give u more happiness

You got this mama!💕

Definitely very common, I also got the blues on day 3, I was being discharged from the hospital, left there and went straight with the newborn to do a 'save our maternity ward' march down the main street! It was a stinking hot summer's day in Feb & I had ppl I didn't know coming with hats & umbrella's to shelter us from the sun 🏖🌞☂️it was all very overwhelming carrying a newborn.

in our community

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

Dummy

My baby has had a dummy since about 2 weeks old (now 5 months) and over the course of the last month we weaned her off it during the day only for naps and night (which was fine) and then 5 days took it completely away during the day.

The first day no dummy was fine, the second bit rougher. But now it feels impossible she just moans and cries all the time it takes ages for her to go down to sleep (she’s always been an amazing sleeper)

I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

Currently typing this as she screams uncontrollably in the car and I cry with her cos I can’t do anything.