Mom guilt over screen time

Hey mamas!
I feel so much guilt because I have been battling a cold over a week now and have given my little one so much screen time these past few days.
I am feeling better today but feel so exhausted so I let her watch tv this morning. Next thing I know i realized that it has been 2 hours of screen time.
It’s only the morning and I’m already overdoing it.
I just feel so guilty!! I hate this little voice inside of me going “you’re hindering her development, she’s not even 2 and she’s getting screen time”
It’s so hard to do everything perfectly!
Just needed to rant a bit. Being a mom is hard!

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You really shouldn't be too hard on yourself. There isn't a user manual on how to raise your child. I hope you should start feeling better soon 🫶🏻

thank youuu! I appreciate that 🫶

It’s so hard to look after a toddler while you’re ill. Don’t be hard on yourself, when we were ill we had TV on most of the day, just tried putting on low stimulating shows.
Hope you’re well soon x

Please don’t be so hard on yourself. It is so hard to be everything all the time and some screen time is ok! Everything in moderation and when your poorly it’s survival mode.
Pop some toys in front of the telly and let her potter around and watch every now and then.

don’t be too hard on yourself, when i’m ill, id stick the tv on and let my boy do what he wants but i felt so guilty too so now with being 17 months i put programs that could help teach him with colours, numbers and words and it made me feel less guilty so i can chill while ill but he’s learning from screen time, if that makes sense, it does in my head lol xx

Thank you so much for those sweet words mamas! I already feel so much better! 💕

Don’t be so hard on yourself. I was one of these mums that said my baby wouldn’t be watching tv but it’s the only time I get a chance to get things done like empty the dish washer wouldn’t her trying to take items or get inside it lol. I think if you’re worried just be selective in what they watch. I can’t stand her voice but Miss Rachel is highly educational and my LG has learnt a lot by watching her. I also put on hey kids and super simple songs so it’s all learning things. The only things she watches occasionally that’s probably not educational is pip and posy and in the night garden. Although she has picked things up from these too. She’s saying so many words and phrases that’s come from tv and not us

I used to feel guilty but I ended up finding stuff she interacted with! We have the wiggles on at some point everyday now and it becomes dance time! She also sings the songs so clearly she’s learning from it!

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