Boundaries?
What sort of boundaries do you think you’ll have with family/friends when baby is here?
I.e visiting
Not kissing the baby
Asking for no pressure to hold baby if they’re not settled
Posting baby on social media etc
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Been thinking about this a lot recently! Pretty much what the tiktok that linked days - no kissing, no visiting when unwell etc. also, no hogging the baby when mum or dad ask for them back/when they're crying to be fed. I'm sure as we get further along, we'll add more.
At the moment I am more trying to set boundaries for pregnancy like no touching the bump uninvited!
No kissing
No visitors without asking first
No visitors if they have so much as a sniffle as I can't vaccinate my baby for the first year 😞
No photos of his face on social media
If the baby needs changing it will be me or dad doing it
If the baby is fussing it will be me or dad calming him
Washing hands before holding the baby
No holding the baby after smoking
No kissing, no visiting if unwell in the first 3 months, if mum/dad ask for baby back it’s not an option, no baby on social media,
No kissing, no turning up unannounced and no social media!
absolutely to all of these!
I feel like Im lucky to be in a place where no one would even think to announce before us etc. With my first I had parents visit in hospital and some friends and family came to see the baby a few days later as it happened to be my birthday that day. I must say that amount of people at once was a bit overwhelming, however my mum was there and she took care of everything, I could just focus on baby and I. I feel like a lot of the rules are common sense and the people around me will keep things like that in mind. The only one I make sure to strictly and verbally enforce is about smoking, but its only my dad that smokes and he's seen my nearly 2 yead old only a hand full of times (he lives abroad. Or maybe I should say I live abroad as I am the one who moved away haha.)
I think this depends on what your family are like/who and how many visitors you will have. I never felt the need to have any rules etc as none of my family would do those things anyway and same with other visitors, as they all know us really well
I’m being strict on my boundaries of who and when this time. Last time I felt very overwhelmed by the constant stream of people in my house, that my son was threat like a game of pass the parcel and it caused a lot of anxiety for me. I’ve said only very close family and friends then everyone else can wait 🤷🏼♀️ I don’t need sally who you have seen or spoke to properly in 6years turning up for a nosey 🤣
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