Bed times

I wondered when everyone is planning planning to give their little ones their own bed time rather than keeping them down stairs with them.

My little one is sleeping cuddling us from about 8 ish. We take her up with my husband around midnight and she's starting to not want to wake for a feed. So I'm wondering as much as I love her down with us, is it time to pop her in the next to me (with the camera of course when we do my little boys bed tome at 730 ish)

Would love anyone's opinions.

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I haven’t started one yet either and not sure how but my mum is always asking if I’ve done the evening bath and bedtime!!! I just follow baby’s cues as to what they need such as a sleep or feed, not sure how to do it on my terms instead

I’ve put my LO to bed at 8ish since he was around 3 weeks old, to TRY set in a little routine, we bath around 7ish then feed & bed, I usually go to bed around a similar time & watch something upstairs but just go with whatever works for you:) it might make things easier to put her down with your little boy, as it might give you & your partner a little time to yourselves (that’s what I found)!!

We put our little one down upstairs in her next to me now and have done since she was around 7 weeks and we could see a natural pattern of bedtime forming of her wanting to go to sleep at 7ish, especially as that first part of the evening is her longest sleep so it means we get some alone time ☺️ we have the baby monitor on to keep an eye on her and I nip up every hour or so but that’s more for my peace of mind x

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This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

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We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

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I thought it was meant to get better as time went on not worse. I’m at my wits end I dunno what to do.

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