Advice - how to deal with this situation

What on earth have I just read?! If that was me I’d wake husband up and tell him to take his niece and F off to the living room with her. Sorry but she is his and his mums problem.
I’d go out tomorrow too, see friends/family, shopping whatever you like if you don’t want to be around them tomorrow!

You aren’t over reacting. Wake your partner up and tell him to take the kid to where your mum in law is. She brought the kid, let her look after the kid. Also you’re pregnant and need your sleep, not stay awake and get kicked in the stomach :(

Talk to your husband. Explain you need sleep and to not stress by taking care of her.
Also I would go wake your mother in law. She's the one who cares for this child

You’re 33 weeks pregnant and she’s jumping about on the bed kicking you? Im sorry but no, she needs to go either to the living room or in MILs bed, let her kick mil in the stomach 🙃

honestly I’m as shocked as you are because I have never ever in my whole life seen anything like this and I’m so upset and angry at the same time that I’m very close to just leaving and going to sleep at my mum’s house. I want to obviously approach this subject once we are alone and say it is not on but I don’t know how to even start it without causing a big row and argument

You are absolutely not overreacting. I would be pissed too! I would tell MIL that you cannot risk getting kicked in the belly, and she needs to look after the little one tonight. If that means buying a second air mattress, so be it. Wow!

Girl start the drama!! This is honestly not on. Can you wake your husband up now and say “I’m being kicked in the stomach here and I need to sleep, you need to take her to another room or give her to your mum” if he refuses then yeah you can leave but you really shouldn’t have to!!

Go and take the baby to your MIL room and let her stay there

Am I the only one thinking if she picks this non verbal 3 year old up and takes her to the mil that's risking getting kick bite and more. WAKE HIM UP AND TELL HIM and make it clear either you can do this or I will go sleep at my mom's. Period that's so not okay and dangerous

I would definitely wake up my husband and tell him to go look after his niece.

I’m sorry but;
1) why did she bring the baby with her in the first place? She should have said she has bub and work out another day to come to you
2) why the heck are they turning up so late? That’s rude imo especially when you’re so pregnant and usually asleep and;
3) why is MIL not looking after the child SHE took to your house!?

You are heavily pregnant for gods sake. You are much better than me, id be waking MIL and telling her that this isn’t going to work and she can come back another day. This is wrong on so many levels you are not overreacting at all, you are not reacting enough. You need to either wake hubby up or wake MIL up, he put you in this position, he can deal with this. I’m so sorry you’ve been put through this.
I’m genuinely angry for you

You need to wake your husband na d have him take y'all niece to MIL. MIL brought the child along therefore she is responsible for watching and cari g for the child. She can lose the sleep.

Def have a conversation with Hubs and set boundaries around this. This is not okay.

I’ve woke him up and told him this is extremely irresponsible and dangerous. He took the baby and went to sleep with her downstairs.

I definitely need to find a way to sit him down and talk over how this visit was far from ok once MIL leaves because I’m just angry and incredibly upset

Sounds like the MIL just didn’t want to watch the LO for whatever reason and maybe was thinking she could pawn her off on you guys.

Glad you did something about but stand your ground because you don’t need this being repeated when you have your baby.

To me it sounds like your mother in law did not want to watch her grandchild! I remember those pains especially at night ugh. Your husband should have made his niece sleep with his mother. Your better then me because once I got kicked in the stomach ONCE everyone would have been up. Did she even ask you if it was okay if she brought her granddaughter? Please don’t feel like you can’t say no to keep the peace! You have the right to say no

If something makes you uncomfortable, if you don’t want people simply because YOU don’t want to be around people doesn’t matter if it’s family then you say that. I use to be a people pleaser especially when it came to family. You need to talk to your husband and mother in law together. Cause that was not okay

Why does she need to stay over if it’s only 40 minutes away? Also this sounds like she needs a break from the three year old! Also it sounds like the girl is possibly autistic so why is she taking her to stay in a strange environment when usually they need routine and consistency. And again she should be watching her not you.

SIL almost never has her kid with her. It seems to me like they just didn’t form a bond. Baby is basically raised by MIL. I don’t even know if they know baby is autistic. To me it definitely looks like it but I’ve always felt like it is not my place to say anything or ask. LO has no form of routine at all which is shocking. At her mums she maybe has 3 toys because they claim she doesn’t know how to play but I’ve never seen anyone sit down with her and play or read her a book or anything. All LO does is basically just walk around or sit around and gets given a phone to watch Cocomelon all day. There is no bedtime, LO falls asleep when tired which sometimes mean she will be up until 3am. It is honestly shocking but I always said SIL is not my issue so not my place to even say wtf are you doing.

I’m a massive people pleaser and always have been so working on changing that because it always leaves me upset. My mum lives 15 mins away max so I see her every day. But me and my mum are incredibly close so we both put the effort in to see each other and this will be her first grandchild so she will constantly ask if I need help with anything because she is excited.
MIL lives 40 mins away but even though she is obsessed with her son, she doesn’t put In effort to see him. She says it’s too far to drive but we also have a train station right outside our house. Personally think she just has an excuse because for me 40 mins would definitely not be too far for me to see my mum at least once a week. This is why I felt like I had to say yes to her staying because I see my mum all the time and my partner doesn’t