I have this friend ..

I have this friend that doesn’t respect my boundaries when it comes to my 9 month old.
First of all she kissed my kid when he was 8 weeks old on the LIPS!!!
And she still sneaks kisses…
Anyways whenever I bring it up to please not do those things she gets really defensive and says kids eat sticks and dirt etc.
or one time my boy was in his excersaucer and she gave him her belt to chew on and I said please don’t do that and she said the excersaucer was dirty so which is better..
anyways I don’t know what to do, I like this friend but also hate having her around my kid
But I also don’t have any support and she’s kinda all I got
Like I’m at the point where it’s not worth it anymore and I wanna cut her off
I need advice
A
* also talking to her about ur boundaries you might as well talk to the wall

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I understand not wanting to cut her off because she’s a friend but that’s also your baby and anyone who can’t respect your rules and boundaries when it comes to your baby should not be around them or you. Your baby always comes first and as a friend she needs to respect your boundaries and if she can’t then she’s not a true friend especially if she gets upset and defensive when you tell her how it makes you feel and that you don’t like it and don’t want her to do those things

Your baby is way more important than a ‘friend’ who won’t listen to your boundaries about your own child. Ide go low contact with them and not let them see baby. If they can’t respect you as the mother. Then they do not deserve to be in babies life.

yes I’ve been very quiet around her haven’t been messaging her back much
But I know she’s gonna ask to hang out or whatever and I know there’s gonna be this huge fight and I just want to avoid it
I’m also 23 weeks pregnant so trying to not allow stress in my life.

I would just send a message like.

“Hey ? I know you’re excited to be around baby and spend time with us. But you’re overstepping boundaries I have set. It makes me uncomfortable and I feel very disrespected by you. ? Is my baby and if you can’t follow my rules then I do not want you seeing them. I hope you can understand.”

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