Feeling alone with 2 year old son - family

Hows everyone dealing with family slowly kinda disappearing? Both my husband and my parents are divorced so theres no base, childhood home etc for either of us to go back to. But holidays have been extremely challenging and stressful for me to navigate since having my son. Christmas was stressful and now easter the same. I want to distance myself from family that doesn’t make a genuine effort but im finding it hard. Ive started to realize how much i held everything together and now that ive stopped no ones even phased.
No one makes an effort or actually cares for each other, its very much to keep a facade. And even for my sons birthday my one sister did not attend as she booked a vacation during the time. My dad almost didnt come.

I feel like im not going to give my son memories of family surrounding him and grandparents obsessing over him. Its so hard to come to terms with. And something I cant really change! Ive tried to make new friends so he has some play mates etc but its so challenging!
Meh! Feeling pretty defeated and alone. All these family members I invested so much in over the years and its clear there wouldn’t have been plans without me making them.

I just pictured such a different life post baby. I cultivated and invested in all the people around me and then was left with nothing 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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I feel like I could have written this post myself. I'm so sorry you are going through this as well. I grew up surrounded by family and always thought it would be the same for my son. I put so much effort into being there for my siblings and their children and I just assumed that they would do the same for my son.

It's so hard wanting to give your kids the best possible life and this amazing supportive village and then realizing that your village doesn't really exist.

ugh right! Its soo incredibly difficult! I moved closer to my sister just so our kids could grow up together but she doesn’t seem to care the least bit! She has tons of support from her husbands side so easy for her not to understand. I always offered to help out, cooked meals etc. and it was just never the same in return 🤷‍♀️ I am trying to redefine what my life will look like now but its just so depressing to me 👎😢

I never did things for family expecting them to do something for me in return. I just wanted to show my love and support. It's just hurtful when you become a parent yourself and realize it was a one sided relationship.

Message me anytime if you want to chat about it. I really feel you on this one.

Maybe i worded it wrong but not the same in return. But just the same or similar level of care.
Like if they needed help I’m there but if i need help which is very rare if ever, crickets lol 👎 yes im always happy to share in our sadness lol its hard not having people to talk to going through similar things. Everyones family seems so happy (i know it rarely is) but just very discouraging.

Agree

What state are you in

im actually in canada

Nice. What part

Be strong for urself and for u r son,don’t expect anything from anyone and do mediation it will help u ,and make sure u don’t have mom guilt at all .

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Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

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What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️