Words of encouragement please ladies 🙈

About to have sex with hubby after 10 months pp of no sex…I feel really nervous and he does too! I’m still breastfeeding and haven’t got my period back so hormones are not working in my favour (I have zero sex drive right now). I wish I felt like having sex and that it didn’t feel like some chore to accomplish. It’s been so long and I am worried it will not feel pleasant due to my prolapse and episiotomy. I’m worried hubby isn’t in the mood and it’s all a bit forced. Worried he isn’t turned on by me as he I’d to bothered about sex right now either. Words of encouragement please ladies :(

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Hi lovely, remember there’s no time frame - there’s no harm in waiting even longer if you don’t feel in the mood! X

thank you. I feel like I’ll never feel in the mood again 😂 so I’m hoping by just going for it now, it’ll bring those feelings back by jumpstarting things again. You see, we are on holiday and it makes sense to do it now. If not now then when?

It will absolutely pass! I felt the same way up until about 6 months pp. It came back in full swing though.. we were like rabbits after my body was healed

Remember sex doesn’t have to include penetration.. giving each other pleasure is absolutely enough until you both feel like it. Breastfeeding absolutely saps my sex drive and makes sex uncomfortable for me but it absolutely will come back eventually.

Bless you! I feel the same my sex drive is 0 but when we actually get into it I enjoy it again. I don’t think sleep deprivation and knowing our bodies have changed so much helps. Xxx

I have a lower sex drive in comparison to my husband. I also had an episiotomy and was sacred to have sex again. We tried about 3 months after our LO was born and tbh it wasn’t as bad as I thought it was gonna be. However there are others ways to be intimate so, maybe try those first and see what happens. I thought I was weird because I have a low sex drive but it’s more common than you think. X

Girlll… my daughter is 18 months old and the last time I had sex I was 3 months pregnant… I totally get it!! But at this point it has to be someone REALLY special to get any of this lol

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