how do i do a DNA test without meeting? i need genuine advice please

Mam

I would tell him the baby isn’t his

Stop all contact and not have a DNA test

All your going to do is give him access to the child and he sounds extremely unstable

Yeah. Do not give him access. You don’t need a dna test. If he’s this bad when that baby is here he will become even worse. And there will be a day when you have to hand over your child to him not knowing where he’s taking them or exposing them too.
Move address. Delete socials. And have your baby in peace. Trust me from someone living through hell with the father using the child to scare the shit out of me every day.

I am sure saying he broke the condom counts as some sort of sexual assault and should be reported. Especially as you have proof. Otherwise ask if police can help you get dna test but unsure of the rules and then you can be 100% xx

just messaged xx

not at all the dna test is for myself. It wont give him any access to anything.

i dont understand how you can tell me i dont need a dna test,these posts always make me laugh because people dont actually answer what i asked rather they answer what they want haha. I get your point 100% percent but i want the dna test for myself to confirm hes the dad. thats all

i dont understand that sorry. i think you should re read my question 😂

Girls please if you cant answer my question best not to post. I understand hes abuisve and i should leave him but 1. im not with him. 2. i know what he is. and 3. none of these answers have even answered my question. its just annoying because everyone states the obvious. Ive obviously made it clear i dont want nothing to do with him. however does not change the fact i need the dna test for my peace of mind. Getting a dna test does not give this guy any access to anything.

But you can’t get one without him turning up and him getting the results. Then if he suddenly decides he wants access he just has to apply to the courts for rights. They’ll agree. And then boom you have no choice about handing over your child. You’ll be ordered too by the courts. This man is abusive as fuck from what you’ve described. Just protect yourself and your child however you thinks best but I’m currently living through this and it is not for the faint hearted.

the police are aware, its tricky getting them or social to do it bcos in a way i wsnt to do it myself so he cant use it to get parental or anything.

1) Keep a record of everything / all communication ( as you’ve done continue to do so )
2) when bubs is born do not put him on the birth certificate regardless of the dna results
3) apple for emergency residency/ custody from the second bubs is born - based on abusive behaviour/ him breaking the condom etc.
4) Apple for a restraining order ( you can go into a police station to find out which you’d need. )
5) Apply for full custody

DNA results are a tricky one as he may turn into an a** & want visitation rights.

I’d get a court order for the DNA test to be done, Let the court handle it & have them file for everything i’ve mentioned above.

you do need to definitely log an official complaint with the police over the condom. It counts as a form of sexual assault!

If for some reason the process is slow & you are concerned he’ll get visitation rights you can ask that it’s supervised visitation at a social services point of contact.

If you need peace of mind then that must mean you think it could belong to someone else- so why don’t you ask that person and if it’s negative you have your answer?

just messaged you xx

literally my exact thoughts!

thats the best advice thank u. ive done all of this i dont want to get a dna test through court as he wjll have my details and try for parental i want to do it privately maybe ill get my friend to meet him and take a swab

thats not the concern. The point still stays the same how would i get a dna from him without meeting 😂🤭

You can possibly apply for the DNA test to be done via a solicitors.
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How would he not know the results?

You cannot take his DNA without consent

That is a horrible idea

she definitely needs to list what country she is in.

In America they do not care, as long as fathers have met the basic needs of a child they eventually move to 50/50

There was a father sentenced for sexual abuse and the judge still gave him custody after he came of prison bc the assault wasn’t against his own child

I have an idea! Maybe not be the best and I'm not sure it will work but here goes. What if you get a court order demanding the DNA test? Like get the judge to send him a lab on a different than you, that you don't have see him I don't know just that would be a good idea..hang in there.

no i dont want courts involved. He will get ire rights if he is the dad

cant i just get a friend to meet him and take a swab hah

Im in london hun

Like someone else said, if it’s just peace of mind your searching for, I would definitely test the other party you had sex with instead.

You could also test one of his family members if you are on better terms with them.

girl I agree! However, she said this guy was a fling so I doubt she even knows his family.

I’ve found cousins and grandmas on FB 🤣🤣

If you put him on child support they will do one if you say you don’t know if he’s the father. You won’t have contact with him and it’ll be at different times. Also I don’t know if you will allow your child to have a father if he is however I do suggest even tho he sounds like he isn’t a good person don’t take that from your child. What you can do is supervise visits at a park or something and it’s not you who go.

girl 😂😂

To answer your question, there is no legal way to collect a DNA sample without his consent…. You don’t want the courts involved because you don’t want him to be able to establish paternity, but no other way around it…. Get him served to submit a DNA test to establish paternity. Otherwise, move on in life and pretend it’s not his baby, especially if he is as horrible as you explained him to be….

not really my friend can meet him ans take a swab not that hard. my main concern was me meeting him haha

Well it seems like you already found the solution to your problem yourself.

Good luck

Ok well get your friend to do it..