Sperm…thief? (Asking for my friend)

is he sure she was ever even pregnant?

I don’t think she was even pregnant to be honest

I know if someone who used to do this to my brother. Multiple times.

She showed him a 12 week scan, he even showed me the scan

Those things can easily be faked. My brothers ex showed her scans and we reverse searched the image and found where it was coming from.

I think the scan actually might have had her full name on it now that I mention it! Her full name and date of birth and the name of the hospital. But that’s all he knows about her. They met on tinder and only met that one time, so he barley knows anything about her xx

Does he still have a photo of the scan? Are you able to share it?

Not sure where you are. If in the UK:
“If you are not married to your child’s mother, or your name is not on the birth certificate, you will not have parental responsibility automatically. You can apply to the Courts for parental responsibility or come to an agreement and enter into a parental responsibility agreement with the mother.
Before granting parental responsibility, the court will consider what is in the best interests of the child. They will look at things like the level of commitment you have demonstrated as a father so far, the attachment you have with your child, and your reasons for applying for an order.”

https://www.family-lawfirm.co.uk/blog/a-fathers-rights-to-see-his-children/#

In any case, in most countries you’ll find a charity/ non-profit that supports fathers with custody matters.
That’s where I would start. Not difficult to find on Google.

thing is we don’t know where to start, as this is a pretty unique situation like he doesn’t know anything besides that girl’s name, date of birth and hospital she was with (I double checked he does actually have this information it lead to nothing though x) he doesn’t know if baby made it past 12 weeks, if it did no idea off the gender, when it was born, its name, or anything so his worried how to approach the situation because he needs at least some more details to demand dna test no? Yes we r from the U.K. x

It may not have even been his kid. She could have been sleeping around and liked him best. Maybe she had an abortion. Theres no way to tell if he really has a kid with her or not. No reason to worry him self at this point

Can he message the friend who messaged him saying she’s pregnant?

The best thing is search for “father parental right charity” and then ring one of them and ask what can be done. They will be informed. Hospital cannot release any patient information as he is not listed as father of the baby. But if he has that much info it should not be too difficult for the authorities to locate the mother.

he did message her friend but she said she doesn’t want to be put in an awkward position as her loyalty lies with her friend, she said that neither her nor the girl owe him anything

Well he doesn’t know if he has a baby out there because she could have been lying. But maybe he can contact the friend who reached out to him…. Maybe hire a PO to find her lol otherwise, move in life as if it doesn’t exist because for him that is technically the case.

The scan picture will have her full name and date of birth on it, a court will be able to find her, a Dna test would probably be a good idea though

it most definitely sounds like she’s lying and was never actually pregnant. it’s not very hard to fake an ultrasound scan and have it say your name and birthday and everything like that just takes some editing. It really seems like she wanted more but he didn’t and then after awhile she went crazy and did that but more than likely realized what she did was fucked up and blocked him so she wouldn’t have to face it

He needs to speak to a lawyer. Lawyers will be able to take that limited information about name and general area, phone number, etc. And will be able to trace her address and more details about her, then will be able to go down the route of applying for a paternity test, which eventually will enable him to go to court over paternal rights

she definitely changed her phone number, I tried contacting her myself and nothing is going through. He got a few other friends to message her and then suddenly she became uncontactable. They had a heated conversation over text before she cut him off completely where he did say some pretty nasty things… he was a bit racist to her and kind of sexist but I know he is a nice guy really… I saw the argument myself as he showed it to me. She said to our other friend that if we keep contacting her she will report harassment.

Anyone who is “a bit” racist or sexist isn’t a nice guy. To me it sounds like he was seriously out of line and that is why she has removed him from the situation. I would not want to be in a vulnerable position with someone who is showing they have awful views either & I’m sure she felt even more vulnerable as a newly pregnant woman.