How to deal with back pain from co sleeping?

I started co-sleeping for half the night at the 4 month regression, which worked well for us. Now, at 6.5 months, his sleep is so bad( I think separation anxiety) he's in the bed with me all night, waking every 30 minutes or so. I'm constantly having to turn over so he can resettle and breastfeed nearly all night. The problem is my back is absolutely dead from contorting to make him comfortable, if I don't he just screams crying. I'm doing this alone and I really don't know what to do anymore

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Pillow between your knees! And maybe stay facing him so you don’t have to keep turning around ?

I could of wrote this, exactly the same boat, my back shoulders and neck are in agony, I wish he would sleep longer than thirty minutes

@Gem I always stay facing him, sometimes the only way to settle him is to turn him on his other side for the other boob

@Amee (Mummy moop moops) it's exhausting isn't it :( I keep trying to tell myself it won't always be like this but then I see other mums saying their babies sleep 12hrs straight and I want to cry. I feel bad as well because then I'm tired all day, so he's not getting the best version of me

I will lay on my side with a pillow propped up against my spine. For most of the night it will be my pregnancy pillow, but when I flip sides about 4am I’ll use normal pillows as don’t want to wake him more faffing with the long one. I also have one pillow under my shoulders rather than just under my head as this seemed to help. Good luck, it’s not easy and remember, as with any social media, you’re more likely to hear about the good rather than the bad. I imagine there are a lot more people in a similar position 🤗

at six months you can also slightly relax the c-curl, so sometimes i lay flat on my back with my hips turned in towards baby but i’m normally not able to maintain that position all night. i love backing my back up against things (pillow/husband etc)

Yes my way of getting that extra sleep is turning with my baby to the other side... even if I don't give her the boob sometimes it's enough to stop her fussing 😂
I just sleep with a pillow comfortably under my head (still use my pregnancy pillow) and that + turning myself over with the baby every now and again seems to do the trick

Absolutely knackering, I know what it's like. For me at the moment I'm having to give my baby antibiotics every eight hours so at ten pm he's having final dose and it wake shim up doing it so he's up then screaming and wnatint me to hold and carry him till 2.39am, he's just gone back to sleep

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