Little girls with facial/pubic hair

I’m unsure what age it’s okay to use but have you heard of Nair? You can teach her how to use it. You leave it on for 10mins, wash it off and the hair is gone. I used to use it in middle school. Also remind her that hair doesn’t affect her beauty so regardless she is amazing and beautiful and don’t let things like this affect the way she sees herself. I’d even encourage her to do daily affirmations about herself.

At the very least teach her how to properly shave her armpits. For some reason I wasn’t allowed to when I was younger and I got picked on for it. They can get LONG and it’s embarrassing.

Thank you ladies. I just wasn't sure if this was something normal for her age and I hate that she's embarrassed about it. The armpit hair isn't much of an issue to her but it's the upper lip hair she doesn't like. Yes I have heard of Nair and hair removal products but like I said, I didn't know if she was too young to start using hair removal products

Maybe take her to get it threaded

Personally I would have no problem taking a 9 year old for a wax consultation at a high end studio to get their opinion on waxing vs. Plucking vs. Threading the lip. The studio can always decline if they don’t feel comfortable.

It’s so hard to be that age and self conscious about your body hair, I’ve been there. I started using nair when I was 9. I will say I wish I was made to feel more comfortable about my body how it was rather than starting the never ending cycle of hair removal at such a young age (that’s not to say you’re not trying to make her comfortable, it’s just what I experienced) it’s up to your discretion what age you’re comfortable with her removing her hair, and how to go about it.. you could also consider bleaching it instead of removing it. If you do go the route of either bleach or hair removing lotion just remember to test a little patch of her skin to make sure she doesn’t have a bad reaction, especially if it’s going on her face

When it starts to grow there old enough to shave hope that helps

I don’t think she’s too young…everybody is different. I’d talk about hygiene and different products. Razors, waxing, Nair (obviously patch test somewhere that isn’t her upper lip to make sure she won’t be allergic) and don’t do nair or waxing before school maybe on a Friday/Saturday. Some redness is normal.

Or if you have the money for a professional you can ask if she’d be into going to a beauty salon or somewhere that does plucking, threading!

Once my daughter reaches age of facial/body hair I’d be talking and informing her. My mom never did, I had to figure it out in my own.

Got called a whore from girls at school for shaving above my knee in gr.8 cuz I didn’t know you weren’t suppose to. I just did what I saw in movies. Soo yeah, I’d just have a coming of age talk, and how her body is gonna change and that everyone is different. Cause it might be a couple years down the road but hair means hormones and hormones means her period is just around the corner!

@Kate

Well yea that's why I haven't done it already bc I try to make her feel beautiful the way she is. But it's not enough for me to tell her, she has to feel it and know it herself. U know? I do my part by telling her she's beautiful and that she's perfectly made but what am I to do when she goes to school and hears different. U know ? I tell her to ignore the kids but I know it's hard for her. Kids are mean these days !! Idk. It's hard. To ME it isn't that bad but it is noticeable considering she's a lighter skin tone.

who doesn’t shave above their knee?? I do and so does my mom. You can still see the hair there it’s just not as noticeable because it’s not as dark. But most people I know shave like that

cosmetologist here- i would do waxing on her top lip vs shaving. shaving can cause irritation, ingrown hairs, and razor burn. waxing removes the hair by the root, so over time there will be less hair regrowth. and it comes with a much lower chance of ingrown hairs and irritation. yes it will be red, but it is a quick little pain and it fades quickly. i recommend going to an experienced waxer too. check reviews to places around you. or you can buy your own at sally’s :) i don’t recommend places like nail shops because they sometimes keep their wax too hot, and her skin is still sensitive and it could cause a minor burn. i’ve had a few clients come in with those stories.
i’ve done girls as young as 6 get their unibrow or mustache waxed off. as long as the little girl is the one who wants it and isn’t being pressured by a parent i don’t mind doing it. self image is starting to grow at this age and it’s important to give her the opportunity to take control of how looks, within reason ofc

Did she already get her period? If so, it would be good to talk to an endocrinologist.

If not, keep an eye on it and you could wax, shave or use any other body hair removal method depending on the area.

I totally get it, Kids can definitely be cruel. As far as her feeling beautiful herself goes, I wonder if there are any celebrities these days that rock their body hair that could maybe give her more confidence? I remember noticing Alyssa Milano on the show Charmed had arm hair, and I definitely helped me feel better about my own.. but either way it’s just hair, it will be something that would likely need regular upkeep once you start removing it which can be annoying (why I wished I hadn’t started then) but I don’t think she’s too young if you’re ok with it

I don’t it’s a genetics thing I think

our whole body is covered in hairs hands chest neck ears everywhere but I’m not shaving my ears bc it’s invisible little dots of hair nobody can see but I’ve had friends that have them longer and a little noticeable but not every one has that

This is normal for her age. Growing hair is the first step in puberty coming. Personally I would try to take to her about accepting her body as it is for now. Not so easy for anyone no matter the age. I’ve had to have similar talks with my tween daughter.

I will 100% help my little girl if she feels self conscious about facial/body hair
Which she probably will due to her heritage
Kids can be picked on for such minor things!
I remember being so self conscious about hairy legs etc and being so happy when my mum let me get rid
Could you take her to get it waxed or threaded? (The facial hair) just because if you did shave it it might come back really quickly
Good luck, hope it makes her feel better x

@Giselle

Nope she hasn't gotten her period

I had hair growing when i was around that age and was embarrassed and my mom wouldn’t let me so i just did it behind her back. I don’t see why she shouldn’t be able to if it makes her feel more comfortable

Puberty for girls can start at 9. I would teach her how to shave and maybe also talk about periods if you haven’t already.

😂 this is a very odd and off-topic thing, I have literally never shaved above my knee. I have dark hair and it grows in pretty thick below the knee. Almost no hair at all above the knee. No need to shave.

She is not too young to get rid of lip hair. But not by shaving- DONT do that- it will just give her a mustache. Take her to get laser treatment to kill the hair follicles there.

School is hard enough without being teased over body hair she has no control over.

Well that’s the thing, basically everyone I knew in high school did, I think it was just a group of gr.8 girls being mean. There was 1 I knew didn’t shave above the knee so maybe she was just projecting.. but I still do to this day and I would never think to call another women a whore for it.. ya know? 😂 Fricken middle school man

you groom your body a certain way? WHORE! 😂 it’s honestly hilarious what kids say and do

Have u thought about waxing her top lip? Better than shaving

kids are fuckin assholes

Thank you all😊