Am I doing too much ???? Because WTF!? (Msgs in the comments)

Back story, my boyfriend’s mother and sister are living with us and his sister also has a baby. After finding out all of that information I took it upon myself to say something to his sister because I didn’t feel comfortable with thought. Today me and my boyfriend are talking and his favorite thing to say is that he isn’t picking sides but he’s going to make sure his family is happy because they have a closer bond! The entire time they’ve been staying with us, they’ve been using up all of my stuff, and not cleaning the house properly and not paying us on time either. I’m so f*cking over the three of them I just want to take my kids and f*cking leave their asses behind.

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I’m sry I know that feeling my hubs sister use to live with us and I’m super ocd she worked at a bar so she’d come home late and wake up in the afternoon blast her music while she got ready I let it slide till it was to much long story short one day she got hammered ran her mouth and I shut it for her 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m sorry your going though it it’s rough

it literally pisses me off so much because he keeps saying he wants nothing to do with and that I need to talk her to her in person. Talking to her person won’t change how I feel and the fact that’s he’s being so nonchalant about it makes him look like a b*tch. He’s always setting boundary and rules and sh*t but can’t apply it to his stupid family.

Bavo mama, I love seeing people put their foot down and standing up not only for their family but themselves ♡

That's tough. I understand that it's probably hard for him bc you're family to him, but they are as well. Given that... he should stand up for you.
If I'm moving into my sister in laws house... I'm going to respect her things/rules/etc. if I'm watching her kids (which i have before) i get ahold of her to make sure what I'm doing is ok... bc again... not my kids.
Respect for standing up for yourself! That can't be easy, bc that's family, but that doesn't mean you should let things slide.

It’s your house your rules they should respect it

I was always told 2 grown women cannot live together comfortable.

Omg my life's story right at this moment smh I've had the conversation so many damn times soo I absolutely understand what you're going through literally I can't stand my baby daddy I'm over him I been told him he a pussy nigga to his face too but he dnt care I think cuz they dnt want the responsibility of watching their own kids like shit family and they can watch our kids its a win-win but hell to the no that's the reason they take over nd run over their own family member like it's crazy but let it be someone outside the family then they gone be saying the same shit we be saying to them

I'm stacking my money to so that me nd my kids can leave cu talking to any of them won't do shit they feel entitled jus cuz it's their bloodline

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Divorced at 5 months PP

My husband just divorced me yesterday.

I'm 5 months post partum and I feel like complete shit. I literally can't stop crying and I don't feel like eating and this whole week my milk supply has gone down due to stress and not eating. What helps with milk supply?

The divorce- on Monday at 5am me and my husband had a small argument on text. It was regarding him not catering to my love language. I sent him a video on how women shouldn't have to ask and how laziness can kill a relationship. We've had many arguments regarding this prior about him not catering to my love language and he doesn't buy me flowers or doesn't think of me. Anyways this night, he text me saying he doesn't do Mother's Day and all that, he doesn't want to buy me flowers because my sisters buy me flowers and he can't be arsed with my moods. He said I've not been his peace and said he's done.
I replied "okay. All I want is for you to appreciate me and love me as your wife and mother of your child. I'm not pushing you away, I'm begging you to love me etc etc. I'm done too."

I come home from my errands that morning and he's upped and left. He took all of his belongings, clothes, drawer, tv- everything.

He didn't ring or text me or anything.

The property is in my name and as he left and didn't leave the key, I changed the locks the next day. I feel this is what pushed him over the edge.

He officially divorced me on Saturday.
I'm 5 months post partum and I have a 5 year old from my ex partner too.

I just want to talk about it with someone that's not biased. Was I asking for too much? I feel he just didn't want to be with me anymore and used this as an excuse? Or is that me overthinking....
Input would be nice xoxo

Partner is giving me the silent treatment

So I was struggling with my postpartum anxiety bad yesterday. My partner and I was out for drinks with family. He kept making jokes about treating me a bit shit.
Which no one thought was funny. I am usually quite patient about him using me as his jokes, but yesterday it hurt.

When we got home I told him it made me feel disrespected. Now he is giving me the cold fat shoulder?! What do I do ?

wtf moment?

I have been going back and forth with my husband lately. Well not lately it’s been years. He is the best husband and father you could ask for; for two weeks. Then he’s inconsistent. It drives me mad. Then he’s back to husband and dad of the year , then back to same inconsistency. I talked to him about this last night and he said “if i was lovey dovey and acted like this all the time you’d get bored and cheat on me.”

Ok so for starters i know some of you are going to say omg omg omg super controlling omg leave omg. No im not doing that. Im happy he finally admitted his wrong doing and taking accountability for it but id like to know the deeper reason, the what the f has him thinking like this reason, the personality trait reason. He’s obviously scared I’m going to leave him; so much so that he’s doing this dumb shit to prevent it. Past trauma? What do y’all think I can do to get him to see I’m not going anywhere? I’m consistent already, I married him, we have a baby. He really is the love of my life. I have never loved another man like this before.. but this shit is for the birds and he thinks he’s keeping me doing this but in actuality it’s making me lose respect and detach.

FTM

Hello,
FTM here. At what age do you stop applying cream on nappy area during nappy changes? My 2 year old boy isn’t toilet ready yet but uses both nappy pants/pull ups and regular diapers

worried about a family members baby

So this child is three months old and she isn’t being fed from 10pm till 6/7 am idk if this is normal or safe and it’s been like this since 2 months i believe as she won’t wake her for feeds she goes to the pub drinking most nights with her baby and her baby has already been in hospital with a very low temperature bc she was outside but as soon as she was in a warm car she warmed up and doctors said she was fine she lets cats play with her bouncers toys that go over her and doesn’t strap her in she is cold from what i’ve heard from other family members and they’ve tried to warm her hands and she’s wet herself at my parents and she hasn’t had a spare vest to put on her and i offered her a blanket as she didn’t have one and she declined and she won’t listen to anyone about it she’s already left the baby with my parents for the night to go out drinking and personally i couldn’t leave my three month old because my parents said she just cried and im really unsure whether to report her or not and her house smells of dog wee/poo as she’s never home to look after them and that’s not safe for the baby i understand being lonely but she doesn’t need to go to the pub every night her friends could
go
to hers or her she could go to a cafe that has closed doors not sat outside a cold pub and it’s a bit of a rough pub in my opinion

my parents are concerned btw but they say i shouldn’t report her as it’s not fair but i feel how the baby is treated isn’t fair

Forgiving a partner…

Long story short - found out 2 months ago my partner of almost 10 years has slept with two girls, one of which he’s been seeing for 8 months - during this time I was pregnant with our third child and gave birth. (She had an abortion)
I found out, he cut all ties (still works with her)
I want to try and move on from this, we have three children , and a home… I can’t face the idea of being without my children half the time. I want to try and make things work. But I can’t stop the intrusive thoughts / images of the two of them together…. Any advice if you’ve been in a similar situation?
Sick of feeling this rubbish, also 5 month pp so hormones/confidence is in pieces😣😣😣