So freaking mad I have a headache (long rant sorry)

Maybe I'm being irrationally angry, but my husband pissed me off so bad this morning my head is actually throbbing and I'm exhausted. So I had 8 weeks of maternity leave and during this time I'd stay home and take care of our girl and make sure that the house was clean and all that like an adult, well I went back to work on Monday which was miserable cause I miss my baby. Im a behavioral therapist so my job is definitely a lot but I do enjoy it. I've been getting more and more irritated all week coming home after working my ass off all day to find diapers everywhere, dishes piled up, the floor a disaster, bed not made and nothing even remotely cleaned or taken care of. He claims he just "doesnt have time to do anything else" which is straight BS again, did this for 2 months after having a human being cut out of me. Anyway do I've been getting more irritated all week. This morning ( he usually stays up a little later with our daughter so I can get some sleep) he woke me up at 4 am YELLING with his stupid friends in a video game while My daughter was asleep in the room with me so there was no other distractions, I went out and yelled at him to shut the hell up and it was very obvious he was drunk, I saw a full baby bottle on his desk that he'd made in case she needed it so I'd reminded him to PLEASE not leave it out all night because it was milk and not formula and he knows I've been struggling with my baby having to have formula more often now and I came out this morning to the FULL baby bottle STILL ON HIS DESK!!!!!!! YKNOW WHAT WASN'T FULL??? THE BOTTLE OF VODKA UNDER IT!!! His job when he stays up late is to care for our daughter so that I can sleep, not get drunk with his freaking friends online and waste her LAST bottle in the fridge!!! UGH!!!! I went and yelled at him about it, he didn't say a damn word! He just rolled over and went back to sleep! I am LIVID.

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I'd be pissed too. Does he not realize that you're not in this alone? Does he just expect you to carry on like a single parent while he has no other responsibilities? Can't even take care of the baby bottle but can take care of the bottle of vodka? He has some serious maturing to do and you are not his mother to make sure that happens. I'm sorry you're going through this. Absolutely unacceptable. He's a grown man acting like a child and you have alot on your plate already than to worry about raising a grown man while taking care of an infant, household, and holding down a job.

I wouldn’t want to be with him doesn’t seem like he wants to take care of an kid

oh believe me he hears about it! He's great in every other aspect I don't have to ask him to take care of her or anything like that and he's a good dad and husband in general but he definitely has some addiction issue with gaming and feels like he has to keep up if his friends are drinking. He's been better about doing things at home since then because I think he saw how mad I was and it scared him a little bit. I've talked to him about keeping up with his friends because he has kinda a weak ass tolerance but doesn't think he does so while his friend is someone who takes 5 shots and might be buzzed my husband is fully drunk at those same 5 shots. I told him I catch that crap again and I'm selling his PC and won't even blink

that's the thing Is he's in general a great dad he loves spending time with her and takes good care of her most the time, he just gets carried away really easy and hes extremely messy. He just doesn't think about it until I bring it up and I'm already pissed at that point

I definitely agree he needs to grow up in a lot of ways, he's usually good about taking care of her, but everything else just isn't a priority to him. He was never forced to learn how to do anything or be aware of his surroundings growing up, but I can only justify it with that so much at this point. Like cmon you can't recognize the pile of dishes needs to be done? Or the diapers need to be thrown away after you change them? He's been better about doing things around the house during the day or at least when I get home from work he'll do some stuff while I get baby snuggles/ feed her so let's hope it stays that way. As for the drinking I went off on him about how drinking a seltzer or beer while gaming isn't the end of the world but sitting there shot for shot with his buddies who aren't even there when he's taking care of the baby is absolutely never okay. I told him I catch that again or if gaming comes in the way of taking care of our home I'll sell the whole PC.

How’s he messy just curious

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Divorced at 5 months PP

My husband just divorced me yesterday.

I'm 5 months post partum and I feel like complete shit. I literally can't stop crying and I don't feel like eating and this whole week my milk supply has gone down due to stress and not eating. What helps with milk supply?

The divorce- on Monday at 5am me and my husband had a small argument on text. It was regarding him not catering to my love language. I sent him a video on how women shouldn't have to ask and how laziness can kill a relationship. We've had many arguments regarding this prior about him not catering to my love language and he doesn't buy me flowers or doesn't think of me. Anyways this night, he text me saying he doesn't do Mother's Day and all that, he doesn't want to buy me flowers because my sisters buy me flowers and he can't be arsed with my moods. He said I've not been his peace and said he's done.
I replied "okay. All I want is for you to appreciate me and love me as your wife and mother of your child. I'm not pushing you away, I'm begging you to love me etc etc. I'm done too."

I come home from my errands that morning and he's upped and left. He took all of his belongings, clothes, drawer, tv- everything.

He didn't ring or text me or anything.

The property is in my name and as he left and didn't leave the key, I changed the locks the next day. I feel this is what pushed him over the edge.

He officially divorced me on Saturday.
I'm 5 months post partum and I have a 5 year old from my ex partner too.

I just want to talk about it with someone that's not biased. Was I asking for too much? I feel he just didn't want to be with me anymore and used this as an excuse? Or is that me overthinking....
Input would be nice xoxo

Partner is giving me the silent treatment

So I was struggling with my postpartum anxiety bad yesterday. My partner and I was out for drinks with family. He kept making jokes about treating me a bit shit.
Which no one thought was funny. I am usually quite patient about him using me as his jokes, but yesterday it hurt.

When we got home I told him it made me feel disrespected. Now he is giving me the cold fat shoulder?! What do I do ?

wtf moment?

I have been going back and forth with my husband lately. Well not lately it’s been years. He is the best husband and father you could ask for; for two weeks. Then he’s inconsistent. It drives me mad. Then he’s back to husband and dad of the year , then back to same inconsistency. I talked to him about this last night and he said “if i was lovey dovey and acted like this all the time you’d get bored and cheat on me.”

Ok so for starters i know some of you are going to say omg omg omg super controlling omg leave omg. No im not doing that. Im happy he finally admitted his wrong doing and taking accountability for it but id like to know the deeper reason, the what the f has him thinking like this reason, the personality trait reason. He’s obviously scared I’m going to leave him; so much so that he’s doing this dumb shit to prevent it. Past trauma? What do y’all think I can do to get him to see I’m not going anywhere? I’m consistent already, I married him, we have a baby. He really is the love of my life. I have never loved another man like this before.. but this shit is for the birds and he thinks he’s keeping me doing this but in actuality it’s making me lose respect and detach.

FTM

Hello,
FTM here. At what age do you stop applying cream on nappy area during nappy changes? My 2 year old boy isn’t toilet ready yet but uses both nappy pants/pull ups and regular diapers

worried about a family members baby

So this child is three months old and she isn’t being fed from 10pm till 6/7 am idk if this is normal or safe and it’s been like this since 2 months i believe as she won’t wake her for feeds she goes to the pub drinking most nights with her baby and her baby has already been in hospital with a very low temperature bc she was outside but as soon as she was in a warm car she warmed up and doctors said she was fine she lets cats play with her bouncers toys that go over her and doesn’t strap her in she is cold from what i’ve heard from other family members and they’ve tried to warm her hands and she’s wet herself at my parents and she hasn’t had a spare vest to put on her and i offered her a blanket as she didn’t have one and she declined and she won’t listen to anyone about it she’s already left the baby with my parents for the night to go out drinking and personally i couldn’t leave my three month old because my parents said she just cried and im really unsure whether to report her or not and her house smells of dog wee/poo as she’s never home to look after them and that’s not safe for the baby i understand being lonely but she doesn’t need to go to the pub every night her friends could
go
to hers or her she could go to a cafe that has closed doors not sat outside a cold pub and it’s a bit of a rough pub in my opinion

my parents are concerned btw but they say i shouldn’t report her as it’s not fair but i feel how the baby is treated isn’t fair

Forgiving a partner…

Long story short - found out 2 months ago my partner of almost 10 years has slept with two girls, one of which he’s been seeing for 8 months - during this time I was pregnant with our third child and gave birth. (She had an abortion)
I found out, he cut all ties (still works with her)
I want to try and move on from this, we have three children , and a home… I can’t face the idea of being without my children half the time. I want to try and make things work. But I can’t stop the intrusive thoughts / images of the two of them together…. Any advice if you’ve been in a similar situation?
Sick of feeling this rubbish, also 5 month pp so hormones/confidence is in pieces😣😣😣