I’m no longer with my son’s father. He moved to the Philippines what would you do?

When you’re honest with yourself, do you basically know what you want to do - and what will give you the best chance at being happy?
I think that’s probably the most important thing for your child really, for its mother to be happy.

Children are so adaptable especially when they're still in the loving care of their caregivers so I wouldn't worry about that aspect.

Could you go to the Philippines for a month or two to get a feel for what it'd be like to live there?

Another thought is that if you were to move there, but were really unhappy, would he agree to you leaving again with your child?
Obviously I don’t know what the laws are there, but in many countries it could be very difficult to move away, if you are creating distance between them only for your own preference.
As the situation stands, he has chosen to move away.
But if you choose to move there - first consider/explore your onward options, in case you ever want or need to reconsider.

I’m confident he would agree if I wanted to come back with him but I know of hearing those stories when people just switch up on you one day so yes will read more up on that, ty! I know I’m more happy with more support around me and not being alone. I can have that in the Philippines or Missouri where my parents are. Then I think of my dog too so that just adds a layer.

if I decided to not go though he would definitely be affected by not being with his dad, right? I just got back from being there for 2 weeks. The additional support is great and the cost of living is amazing. I just need to learn the language and then I have been thinking I’d like to date because I do want that family unit but I don’t think I’d date a Filipino national lol. That should be the last thing to think about but it has been on my mind since I’ve been single for 2 years. I know when I’m there I’ll be depending on his dad more and I just want to be independent from him and that will take a little time.

That’s good. And not to harp on about this :)…. But make sure you’re confidant that as your child gets older, he’s still likely to take that supportive stance.
It wouldn’t be absurd to get some pre-emptive legal advice, just to be sure of your position 💕
But yes exactly - support is vital, wherever you feel you can get that to the best degree.

you’re right I do need to talk to a lawyer. You’re not harping at all I need the outside advice a bit 💗💗💗

If you go anywhere go to Missouri and regroup

I’m going to do this first for sure and take it from there. I guess I’m just grieving moving out of cali since I’ve been here for almost 11 yrs. Thx 🙏🏼 ❤️