Is it just me?

My partner and I had an amazing sex life before baby. Like daily or at least every other day. Since baby he’s been super needy and I haven’t wanted anything to do with being touched let alone having sex. 3 weeks pp and he was hounding me maybe it was the hormones or honestly the pressure but I gave in and it was painful! Now 5 months pp and we have sex maybe once every 2 weeks. Mind you I’m still bleeding because I got an IUD back in February and just haven’t stopped. We’ve had sex while on my period but now it just feels weird. I don’t know how to fix this. Sex was a big connecting part of our relationship and without that I fear we won’t last but I can’t make myself want it and I really don’t like faking it with him. He’s the only man I’ve been with that I don’t have to fake it with. Help!!!

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Communication is they key , me and my partner we always talk about sex and see how we can help each other and I’m pretty sure if you seat down with him and tell him how you feel he will understand you. However if the bleeding haven’t stop I will advice you to see a doctor I’m sure they can give you a medication to stop you from bleeding long or the IUD is not good for you

If sex is painful could be signs of infection because I had that and I decided to go to sexually health clinic to get help and it’s will be health for you and your partner to get check up and don’t feel less about yourself or fear is okay to feel fear but this can be. fix try to have okra water for 2 weeks or 1 weeks after attending the clinic

i’m the same, we argue about sex all the time, i just don’t have the energy or mood for it anymore, i’ve just went on antidepressants so hopefully if i get happier i’ll want it ?? i’m hoping so tbh

My boyfriend and I used to have amazing sex all the time sometimes multiple times a day. But then he started traveling for work and I don't see him as often. When he would be home he acted like he didn't want to have sex with me so my overreactive mind started to think that maybe he was cheating on me and that's why he didn't want me anymore. I have never been able to prove him cheating on me and I have searched every inch of his phone so I don't think he is. I just don't know why things changed. I'm surprised I was able to get pregnant again with the lack of sex in our lives. I'm now 3 weeks pp and we haven't had sex yet. I considered it because I healed really fast and haven't had any bleeding for about a week and a half now. But our relationship has been in such a rough spot that I can't get into it with him. My ex husband used to have this same job and he used the traveling as a reason to cheat so that's why my mind went straight to him cheating and I really didn't want him taking this job because of it.

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