Honest opinions pls x
Am I crazy to be upset in this situation?
Baby #3 due early August, husband works FIFO, husband also studies, also has own business and other things he’s working on (apps , volunteer groups the list goes on and on)…
Was taking two weeks off prior to birth due date and two after. Now has said he has a workshop (mandatory) to do the week after due date.
There is another slot he could take the month after but it’s while he’s away working fifo but I argued he could check his annual leave balance and could speak to his employer. Mind you we are NOT financially worried or stressed. I even suggested taking one week unpaid leave to sit September date.
He refused outright, never checked leave balances, never spoke to workplace just decided he will do it week after birth.
I have 0 support network no friends no social circles no hobbies nothing; SAHM quit job to care for them no daycare available nearby for 35mins live remote; family is 60mins away minimum drive.
He’s apparently going to get my gran 👵 so my child’s great gran to stay for a week to help me but I feel so sad and honestly like he didn’t even try.
Would you be mad ? Sad? Accepting? Like am I crazy for being hurt and totally pissed with this??
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If he has the option to do it further down the line then he can wait. He’s actively choosing to do something for himself when you’ll have barely given birth and will be at your most vulnerable. Not good enough!
Also, worst case scenario something goes wrong, you end up emergency cesarean and can hardly move for 6 weeks. I don't think your gran is gonna cope with that situation! X
Its baby 3! You're gonna need help with your other 2 as well as your baby. Tell him he has to pay for a live in post partum doula for the week he's away.
Ahhh he knows what he is doing, he purposely doesn’t want to be there to help you when baby first comes home. He did it twice and clearly doesn’t want to do it again
You tell him you need him at home.. he can work later. He helped you make this baby, so he needs to help you take care of this baby.
Thankyou for all your advice- seems there’s a consensus 😂 I struggle with having any sway or influence over the man so I’ll have to try think of ways to convince him 😬
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