Help…

Is anyone struggling with really low mood and anxiety? I have always been grateful that I have never properly suffered with my mental health but I have really started to struggle these last couple of weeks and I think I know the cause…
Last year I started a very corporate sales job (thinking that was the next step for my life) and it has become very very stressful and I have become very disassociated with it which is making my MH really poor. I work remotely and I’ve just completely lost my get up and go, especially as I am just left to my own devices and might catch up with my boss a couple of times a week… I know part of this is that you do just feel generally crap during your first trimester but I just don’t see how I can snap out of it mentally.
My concern is this is not good for baby/my health but obvsiouly I cannot leave my job but I don’t know what to do to make it better..
I am nearly 11 weeks and will be telling them as soon as I have my 12w scan but unfortunately I work with a load of corporate men who ultimately just might not get it. I think a lot of it is also guilt as my boss hired me, a 28yo, over an older male because they saw so much potential in me but I couldn’t be any more unhappy 😔 I just want to live in my happy pregnancy bubble!
Has anyone experienced the same? Does it get better? Do I just need to take some time off?

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Hi lovely, you are not alone! I’ve been experiencing the exact same! For the last few weeks I’ve just lost all get up and go and enjoyment in most things, cried most days and generally felt really low….. but it does get better 😘

The stress of a corporate sales job is savage at the best of times, without the added pressure of growing a tiny human. I’ve found being kind to myself and taking some of the pressure off has really helped me, simple things like having a hour before work to chill, getting out for a short walk on my lunch break and despite wanting to just get under the duvet and stay there reach out to friends and family.

I’m also in a corporate man environment and surprisingly work have been amazing since finding out, you may be surprised 😘 try not to let this add extra pressure right now sweet your priority is you and your baby, people have babies and go on mat leave all the time please don’t feel guilty for doing the same.

Hope you feel better soon xx

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I’ve just sobbed reading this, it was just what I needed to hear. Thank you xxx

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Also, just wanted to add if you believe having some time off will help you and how you’re feeling throughout your pregnancy, follow that feeling. I know it’s easy to give in to the guilt of others or work especially but Nobody knows how you feel and the most important thing you can ever invest in is yourself and your baby. At the end of the day, you can never be replaced there, whereas at work we’re all replaceable. Take care xx

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