How do you discipline your toddler?

We use ‘the step’ he gets 2 warnings before he has to sit on the step for 3 mins. Unless it’s something really bad then he goes straight to the step.
If he continues to do the same things afterwards he’ll have a favourite toy removed for the rest of the day or no stories at bedtime that day. Generally the threat of the last 2 stops him from being naughty, but not always.

We tried the step yesterday and toddler was just uncontrollably crying and in a right state kept trying to get back up from the step etc which then makes me more angry so I end up shouting because I’m frustrated and drained from it all the time 😩

I know it’s hard, my son will sometimes cry as well but it’s less often than when we first started it. You just have to persevere with it.
Have you got someone to help you with the discipline so when you’re feeling touched out they can take over?

yes my husband but if I’m honest he gets just as annoyed as I do, but I am going to try and work on it because at the moment I just feel like a shit mum

I’ve really struggled with this as I have a very short fuse. But I realised it was all about how I communicated with him. If I want him to do something I get down on his level and look him in the eyes and explain why I want him to do it, if he wants something I do the same and explain why he can’t have it. I’ve been surprised by how differently he responds to when I’m just shouting at him to do things or stop. If he’s being a particular little pain in the arse I tell him I’m going to count to 10 and if you’ve still not got your shoes on (e.g) I’m carrying you to the car without them. (This kid hates to be carried).
And actually following through on my ‘threats’ has made a huge difference.
If I really feel like I’m going to lose my shit (because I’m only human!) I tell him! I’m leaving the room now because I’m going to get angry and then go back in once I’ve worked out how I’m going to deal with it.
Hope some of that helps, but just know you’re not alone!
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I learnt a trick that if they’re kicking off and not listening etc to lower your voice to a whisper
They will be trying to hear you they naturally will lower their volume

I also try a cuddle - it’s my go to I get on the floor sit there and ask does she need a cuddle more often than not within a couple of minutes she’s come over for one! She’s experiencing big emotions and it’s ok to do that

I also try not staying in and not doing the same things as she gets bored etc

Shouting doesn’t work but we’re all guilty of it - apologise and move on! Try removing yourself from situations and then coming back to it before you shout as long as they’re safe

It gets easier (and then they’re preteens/teens grunting and arguing with you with all the sassss!!) x

In addition to what everyone else said, I also try to think about “yes” spaces or activities if they kick off too much. What do you discipline about? For example, if I always have to tell my boy off for getting somewhere dirty, I make sure we go out once with plenty of time, and change of clothes, and in old clothes, so I let him get very dirty. If I tell the toddler off for playing with food, next time I will make something they can actually get messy with. If I tell him not to run, does he actually have a space and opportunity to run around freely in the same day? I find it helps with tantrums in general if I let them let off their frustrations in a managed way

Big little feelings on Instagram has lots of tips and tricks for big behaviours