Feeling unwanted and not pretty

I have had sex 2 times since having my baby. The first time was at 6 weeks postpartum and the second time was a week after that and he wasn’t even in the mood so it was for maybe 5 minutes and he didn’t finish before his erection went down. It has now been 4 weeks since the last time and my boyfriend literally doesn’t even want to have sex. I would watch porn but it makes me feel like a hypocrite since I don’t want him watching it and I have tried masterbating and it’s not good enough. I have 2 vibrators but I really want him. He won’t even finger me or suck my tits since I’m breastfeeding. I just want sex so bad it’s all I think about when my baby is sleeping. He also doesn’t go down on me because he doesn’t like it so I’m literally at a stand still having to wait until he wants it because if he doesn’t he won’t stay hard. Ughhhh. What should I do? Also he and I had an amazing sex life when I was pregnant and before but now it’s so crappy and the baby naps all the time so we have plenty of time. But all he wants to do is play video games. We don’t even really cuddle.

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Talk to him and see what’s wrong communication is the key to any relationship

he just says he’s in the mood but not like something in his mind isn’t letting him be in the mood

I'm 6 months pregnant and my partner never wants to have sex with me anymore. Before I was pregnant it was multiple times a day. Now it's causing us to have fights.

the feeling of them not wanting to do anything is causing fights? I have just been shutting down and being pissed off

I feel like you just described my life. I don't even remember the last time I had sex. I'm only 3 weeks pp so I haven't even tried since my son was born but I didn't have any tears and a fast recovery. With my last one we only waited like 4 weeks so I'm sure we could now but I have come to the conclusion that he's just no longer attracted to me. It breaks my heart because I have never felt attractive and now he's making me feel worse.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m here if u need to talk. I don’t know wat advice to give other than to communicate your feelings and needs to him. I’m 21wks I have no clue how my husband will be after the baby comes. There are teas/herbs u could try that might help. I’m having prego brain right now and can’t remember wat they r tho. I’d have to research it (in school to become an holistic healthcare practitioner)

My advice is don’t hold that for you. Talk to him he have to be honest that way both can see what can do and solve this. You don’t deserve to feel like that.

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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Hi everyone! I honestly have 0 social queues when it comes to talking to anyone in general. I definitely have a hard time talking to other women and making new friends. I can 100% relate. I just don’t like the idea of texting or meeting up but when I do I’m like “oh this isn’t bad.” Any advice? I also have a hard time getting comfortable and just feeling judged by other women😅 I’m also 19 so maybe making a change in this now will help in the future making mom friends/friends in general. Thanks in advance!

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