Stress

It seems like no matter what I do I just keep getting hit with more stress and it’s not even me or my boyfriend or kids causing it it’s my mom. She keeps making her problems my problems and me being an only child I have no choice bt to deal wit it. Any tips on blocking out things that are unnecessary granted planning a baby is stressful enough bt I have ptsd and I’m really afraid of having a panic attack while pregnant and stress usually causes them.

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My parents stress me tf out too. But the moment I decided I wanted to plan to get pregnant and specially the moment I became pregnant i decided to only worry about myself and my pregnancy.

I wish I had advice for you but I’m struggling with the same issue. Mom means well, but she is a huge drama queen and lays the guilt on thick. She doesn’t like my husband or his family, and she’s quick to get offended by anything we say around her. I already feel very guilty for moving halfway across the country from her as she gets older and less healthy, as much as some distance is good for my mental health. I didn’t move to get away from her, I used to be a short 1 hour flight away, but we moved to a safer and lower cost of living area for a better lifestyle for our kids. My mom seems to resent me for it. I still hope she moves out here when she retires though, I can’t imagine not being there for her when she starts to need more help. But I think she expects me to move out to her, which I really can’t do 🫤 it’s a big cause of stress in my life.

I’ve tried setting boundaries I even tried not opening up my door for her n ignoring her calls. Now it just seems lik she only wants to talk to me wen she wants to borrow my car it’s annoying

It’s even to the point her and my grandma are getting into it about me and of course they call me afterwards 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?