Night time feeds

So since coming back from hospital with my LB I have done all the night time feeds. I have woken up every 2-3 hours to look after him and I'm tired all the time.

I have said to my partner if he could help do them as its getting tedious now. I'd do anything for my baby, but I'm really struggling to get any sleep and when it's during the day I'm always interrupted which means I'm not getting any unbroken sleep. He gets really grouchy if I wake him up, says I should make an excuse when I do wake him. But shouldn't feeding your baby be a good enough reason... has anyone else been in the same situation? 😮‍💨

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I am in the exact same situation! My partner claims not to hear her cry so never wakes to any of the feeds during the night then claims the next day he is so tired when I’m up ever 2/3 hours with her. And if he does do one it will be the late bedtime time one between 11pm and 1am and then sleep in till 10am or later the next day. Like you I just really want some unbroken sleep not long just 5 or so hour would be lovely xx

Why don't you suggest you take turns during the night and the day (if your partner is still on paternity leave)? If you know your baby eats every 2-3h, each of you can set an alarm for the feed they should be doing, so you both get some sleep. Even though it won't be a whole night sleep, at least you get a few hours rest.

I could of written this myself. My partner dosent hear LO at night, and I have a 2.5yr old so sleeping during the day is impossible. Instead my partner does the late night and stays up till around 10:30 for the last bottle and then wakes around 5 for the morning bottle so I can sleep till our second child wakes or he needs to leave for work and then I do the 1:30 bottle.

This is what works best for us, but maybe it’s something you can do until LO is sleeping longer stretches?

I do all the night feeds and changes as currently EBF and I'm the same awake every 2 hours on average to feed but some nights shes been extremely fussy with wind pain and currently has oral thrush so it can be super exhausting. My husband has offered to help if I ever need anything done. I think that is the most important part is his willingness to participate in helping. Remember ladies, your partner's are responsible for this child equally as much as you. If you are struggling make sure u ask for help!
If you are bottle feeding can you maybe ask him to do the late feed so that you can go to bed early before and get a couple of hours head start? If your baby naps through the day try and nap with her this massively helps me I take her up and feed her on my bed and co sleep and it helps us hugely xx

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