Time away from baby EBF

I'm going to a hen do on Saturday. I will be away from my boy from about 12noon to 7pm. I was just going to take my Hakka ladybird to relieve any fullness. Or should I take a proper manual pump? He does sleep 4-5hrs at night without feeding and I don't feel uncomfortable or leaking so hopefully I will be ok. 🤞 Any one else EBF been away from baby for an occasion and have any advice?

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Yeah I think I got to around 7 hours and then started to feel full xx

Overnight your body will have adjusted to the time between feeds but during the day they will be expecting to be used so it might get uncomfortable. I’m not familiar with the haaka ladybird so not sure if it will be enough to help. Maybe take lots of breast pads

I would pump. When I went to school I left around 8AM and wasn’t back until 4PM and I’d pump just before I left and once during lunch. It is VERY uncomfortable (for me anyways) at the 5 hour mark and I start to leak around 3 hours sometimes so it was best just to pump and stick the milk in a fridge. I’d leave the house wearing pads, pump 15 mins halfway through (nice time to take a break and ask for baby pics because I miss my boy) and then fresh pads and you’re done! But just my .02. Good luck!

I went out to London for the day once and took my pump but found it really difficult to find time to sit and do it. That was probably my fault for planning such a busy day. I would say you would be better off taking a manual pump and getting more out than you would with a Hakka. If you just relieve the fullness you may find it doesn’t take long at all to fill up again and then you’ll be back to sitting on a toilet seat trying to do the same thing 😂 pump once and be done with it I say. And make sure you have a good amount of time uninterrupted to do it! Have fun 🤩 x

Thank you everyone. I think I will take my pump to be on the safe side. Best to be comfortable and enjoy myself.

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